Anxiety after first date

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Anxiety after first date

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    DangoTango
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    January 28, 2017 at 3:51 pm #124867
    Anxiety after first date

    A girl and I both confessed our feelings for each other about two weeks ago. We’ve gone out two times and it has been really great. After the first date I was very anxious but I calmed down in a few days. Now after second date which was really amazing, I am back to my previous state. What can I do?

    Note: We’re both teenagers and I’m inexperienced so we had a sloppy first kiss that is still haunting me.

    woodj3
    woodj3
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    January 28, 2017 at 5:40 pm #124868

    There are things you can do to calm your anxiety. Breathing exercises, practice mindfulness, clean your room or landscape for a few hours.

    I used to get such terrible anxiety and I thought it was just me, but I’ve learned that anytime we are putting ourselves in an unfamiliar situation our bodies prepare to take care of it self. Anxiety is a bodies natural response to perceived potential fear. Not that you necessarily have anything to be worried about with this girl, but you are still trudging unknown waters.

    Mindfulness can be as simple as you sitting down and writing out on paper what you are thinking about while you’re having anxiety. This allows the mind to slow down just a little bit and rationalize. I can tell you that in my mid 30’s I still accidentally lick a cheek, clang teeth or bump heads when trying to go in for a kiss. Good luck, man! You sound like you’re pretty self aware and that goes really far.

    woodj3
    woodj3
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    January 28, 2017 at 5:46 pm #124869

    Sorry, anxiety is the bodies natural response to perceived potential “danger”…


    kk2017
    Participant
    January 29, 2017 at 5:45 am #124882

    take things slow and enjoy the moment. I would say be chill and get to know that person is the key…


    multisamsami
    Participant
    January 29, 2017 at 10:25 am #124884

    Remember she’s probably as inexperienced as you are, since she’s a teenager too, and that she feels as nervous as you do! You are both on the same boat! With that in mind you’ll see that strangely it will allow you to calm down


    Bigi
    Participant
    January 29, 2017 at 10:41 am #124885

    Everything is okay, you are young and we have all experienced this. Just try to not think much, listen to your instincts and dont care too much what will she think of you.

    • This reply was modified 8 months, 3 weeks ago by  Bigi.

    Lariz
    Participant
    January 29, 2017 at 3:27 pm #124899

    Anxiety is normal and nothing to fear, just know that at the end of it all she could be that one person who’ll accept you regardless of your ‘flaws’ (we all have them) which includes the anxiety, it’s just another chapter to you that she’s learning to understand. Always be yourself and don’t try to be someone you aren’t.


    SUPERBARRY
    Participant
    January 29, 2017 at 5:24 pm #124903

    Just play it cool and be yourself.


    brl9fc
    Participant
    January 29, 2017 at 5:43 pm #124906

    Honestly man, just relax. It’s never easy to begin with, pretty sure everyone has nerves – Even the girl you are seeing. Just try and be yourself and things should work out.


    DangoTango
    Participant
    January 30, 2017 at 9:28 am #124870

    Sorry, anxiety is the bodies natural response to perceived potential “danger”…

    Thanks a lot mate! This is one of the very few girls I’ve liked in my short life but so far the one I like the most. This anxiety is not allowing me to keep my life normal; I am thinking about her 24/7. I’m going to try practicing mindfulness and thanks again.

    richiro
    richiro
    Participant
    January 30, 2017 at 1:59 pm #125001
    Reply To: Anxiety after first date

    you’re doing just fine. its always nerve-wracking when you’re new to it, new to kissing, new to everything. just follow your instincts and remember she’s nervous too… so just do (and do for her) what you can think of that would put you at ease if she did to you.

    that’s how i always approached it and its worked great. its okay to be nervous. okay to act nervous. okay to admit your nervousness.

    the best thing that will help is to realize ther eis no right or wrong way.. that messing up or being smooth doesn’t make you win or lose soembody. just be yourself and enjoy the moment and have FUN.. (don’t worry about what to do and if you did it right).. JUST HAVE FUN and enjoy her. soak her in. take her in. notice and be into her – not about whats in your head on “waht now”?

    you’ll be just fine! 🙂


    wargrey
    Participant
    February 1, 2017 at 7:08 pm #125382
    Reply To: Anxiety after first date

    take some cialis then you will see what is going to happen xD