Apparently I'm Psycho?

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Apparently I'm Psycho?

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  • GreenEyedGirl93
    Participant
    October 16, 2016 at 2:44 pm #114230
    Apparently I'm Psycho?

    I have been single for going on three years now. My last real relationship really messed me up due to the cheating and lying done by my boyfriend. I knew he was doing it but I wanted to be with him so bad I stuck around and basically begged for him to stay with me on a couple occasions. For the last three years I have dated a couple guys however, I was never in an official relationship with them. They have all seemed to pan out the same way, I start talking to a guy, go on a couple dates, get attached and want their immediate attention like we’re living together and have been together for longer than reality. I feel like I am the only one ever putting in time and effort towards them and the relationship I want with them. I obviously have trust issues so them talking to other girls, whether they’re just friends or not, is really hard for me to just let go of. I am a very open person and talk about EVERY feeling I have even when I should keep my mouth shut. I need help from both sides!


    GreenEyedGirl93
    Participant
    October 16, 2016 at 2:48 pm #114231

    I am currently talking to a guy for the last 2-3 weeks. He is a cop, a very attractive one… he constantly has women hitting on him and he embraces it for sure. It bothers me and makes me feel disrespected but he points out that we are not dating so I really shouldn’t feel the way I do? I feel like I”m the only one putting effort in and he only puts effort in when he feels like it. I don’t feel like I’m the only one he’s talking to either.


    Anonymous
    October 16, 2016 at 9:56 pm #114242

    be a friend first… if you like him…


    109ball02
    Participant
    October 17, 2016 at 1:39 pm #114336

    Are you currently dating anyone right now, or in a relationship with someone (not talking about the cop guy)


    sxystf
    Participant
    October 17, 2016 at 4:22 pm #114375

    perhaps try being friends first


    teebee
    Participant
    October 25, 2016 at 4:08 am #115153

    we are all psycho at some point lol


    MSgirl
    Participant
    October 25, 2016 at 12:40 pm #115239

    My advice is slow down. There is a natural progression to dating and if you are fast forwarding it will be overwhelming to most. Try being friends and taking it slow. Being honest about how you feel is fine, just don’t rush things.

    merill
    merill
    Participant
    October 31, 2016 at 2:59 pm #115903

    I agree with MSgirl’s comment here, I think you get attached too fast. You have an emptiness in you that you try to fill with guys, but I don’t think they will get you anywhere. You need to solve yourself first, why do you get too much attached? why do you need their immediate attention? all comes from trust issues, sure enough, but it clouds your vision and makes you think all guys will act the same. you give the same amount of attention and put the same amount of effort into all of your relationships, thinking this will help you win them, but first, think of your desires. what you want in your relationship, how you can achieve it and where do you want to go afterwards. choose the men you will date according to these.


    Trinity24
    Participant
    November 1, 2016 at 1:00 pm #116022

    Hi….I am having sometimes problem not getting attached to guy I only like…and that is psycho but I cannot help it and I hate because it never ends up well. I guess you need to be more guarded when it come to feeling of attachment. Just be less emotionally invested cos many people get that psycho vibe lol.


    troubledvictoria
    Participant
    November 6, 2016 at 10:27 am #116502
    Reply To: Apparently I'm Psycho?

    Cheating is not nothing. Of course it’s normal you have trust issues, don’t let that bother you. Just don’t expect that every guy is perfect, they have friends of both sexes too. You’re not a psycho, you just got out of a bad relationship, you’re not alone.

    alyvirgo
    alyvirgo
    Participant
    November 7, 2016 at 2:56 am #116516
    Reply To: Apparently I'm Psycho?

    You are not crazy in my personal opinion I never let my boyfriends hang out with their girl friends alone. EVER.


    leslie32
    Participant
    November 8, 2016 at 2:31 pm #116752
    Reply To: Apparently I'm Psycho?

    When you move too fast and act like you live together after two dates, yeah they think you’re a psycho. Sorry. Slow down. Get to know the person. Every guy is not your ex.