JrakParticipantNovember 30, 2016 at 12:23 am #118515
This might get a little long winded but I think to get the advice I need you have to know the whole story. So, my father needs a home care nurse to come by every night to help him get ready and into bed. I see him almost every night. There are 2 different ladies that come by every week. One of these women (that my dad literally adores because she treats him so well) is much younger then me (I’m in my mid 40s she is in her 20s). Normally to me that’s too young to date. But aside from her being very attractive, we get along very well and sometimes she spends a half hour just chatting with me before she leaves. The way she treats my dad is a huge deal for me also. She told me recently that she and her boyfriend broke up. Now here’s the rub. She’s much younger then me and she’s also my dad’s home care nurse. But I really think we would have a great time going out. I don’t want to make her uncomfortable but I also don’t want to pass up an opportunity . Help
JrakParticipantNovember 30, 2016 at 7:20 pm #118636
Of course that’s my intial thought too. “Go for it”. But I’m concerned about the after effects if she’s not into it. Or feels its unprofessional of her to do so. I’m hoping to have some input that helps me decide what I should do. Thanks.
richiroParticipantDecember 1, 2016 at 2:35 pm #118717
Take it easy on this one. I’m sure she is a fantastic woman and such. But there are a number of factors to consider here:
1. It’s her job to be nice and treat peopel nice and be friendly and talkative and positive. ITS HER JOB! Now.. some people do it better than others, and i’m not saying romance doesn’t spark on the job… but the key here is —- its her JOB. Whether there is ‘something” there on her side depends on if she treats you differently than she does other clients and their families. And of course, yo dn’t know this and can’t. So don’t take “we talk and can converse and she’s nice to me and my dad” as a sign there is ‘something”. There’ll have to be much more (and much more she shows you) to signal it’s more than just client/nurse here.
2. Let’s just say you do date. What if it goes badly and wrong and you break up. Now what? Does she leave? Is it tense in the house for your father’s care? I would take this possibiity VERY SERIOUSLY especially with #1 as well.
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