Being setup by friends, good idea ?

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Being setup by friends, good idea ?

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    Quiet guy
    Participant
    June 30, 2015 at 12:50 am #81778
    Being setup by friends, good idea ?

    It’s come to my attention lately that I have a few friends that are trying to set me up with someone. Let me set the scene, after a recent event I was asked to give this young lady a tour of our operation. I did, and during this tour, we chatted, had a few laughs, and generally got along well. I could have easily asked her out or arranged to meet later, but did not in the interest of professionalism. When I returned back I was asked “did you make a date?” I took that as a little odd considering the circumstances. Tonight, a different friend called and asked “did you get a chance to meet our daughter today, I’m not trying to set you up, shes happily married.”

    I suppose my question is do these two friends have good intentions or what? What’s you take on things?

    tropperdu
    tropperdu
    Participant
    July 1, 2015 at 2:26 am #81859

    It doesn’t sound like they’re doing any harm. If you genuinely dislike being set up by people (sounds as though this was the case in at least the first situation) then tell them straight up. Otherwise, unless they get too pushy or make you uncomfortable, I don’t see the harm in what they’re doing.


    Quiet guy
    Participant
    July 1, 2015 at 9:07 am #81876

    I don’t mind being set up by either of these friends, in fact I’m somewhat glad they did try. I just felt it was innapproiate as myself and they young lady were in and administrator – examinee role. Had this been in a everyday situation, I’d have no problem with it.

    Thank you for your outside view, I apperciate it


    Sandje
    Participant
    July 2, 2015 at 5:21 pm #81942

    I think its all a crapshoot. My friend Becky set me up with one of her friends, and it started off going very well. The problem is, once things started to tank it hurt my relationship with Becky. There’s a little risk involved, because friends end up having to take sides or be true to a particular person. Keep that in mind.


    Quiet guy
    Participant
    July 6, 2015 at 8:22 am #81980

    That’s one advantage I had going for me here. My friend did not know the set up either. They just created the opportunity for myself and the lady to chat. But you do bring up a good point that I had not considered.


    illcato
    Participant
    July 6, 2015 at 4:19 pm #82049

    Might as well try it, if you don’t mesh well then you just stop


    Ragner
    Participant
    July 8, 2015 at 3:04 am #82209

    Nothing to lose.


    rev11
    Participant
    July 8, 2015 at 12:09 pm #82278

    It seems like they are trying to help you out. Nothing to lose by going with it.


    Quiet guy
    Participant
    July 8, 2015 at 5:47 pm #82406

    Just though I’d take a minute to say thanks for the replies. I had the feeling they were just trying to help, but it’s always good to have an outside perspective view of things.

    I’ll be asking another question soon enough in another thread.

    Thanks again.