Can he really see me as a friend?

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Can he really see me as a friend?

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    Siobhan21
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    September 28, 2017 at 4:20 pm #150806
    Can he really see me as a friend?

    Ok, I am one that doesn’t believe in the whole guy-girl friend thing. You can’t be just friends with a guy or a girl. Even if there are some exceptions to the rule, those exceptions could break too someday, you can never say never. But in this case, we kind of knew each other for years. We weren’t exactly friends because he was studying in another country but when he returned we started talking, it lead to flirting and we said that we would meet up and that we wanted something to happen between us. Then he gets a job proposal at yet another country and when we meet he tells me it’s better that nothing happens between us, because he’s leaving and of course he was right since I didn’t want just a one night stand. But the real tricky thing happens next: After he leaves, we maintain contact and he calls me friend, he even says things like ”I consider you something like my little sister”. And I’m like ”seriously????”‘
    Could this really happen?

    triciamint
    triciamint
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    September 29, 2017 at 10:20 am #150853

    Maybe it’s his way of moving on and he said that so you can move on as well. Since he keeps getting assigned somewhere else, obviously you’re not meant to be together. Whenever you agree that you want to be more than friends, circumstances just don’t go with the flow.


    sye1776
    Participant
    September 29, 2017 at 9:22 pm #151032

    I’m friends with tons of women. Most of which I’d be happy to be considered “more than friends” if given the opportunity but the other 25% I can’t imagine being more than just friends. Guys and girls can absolutely be friends, but I think at least one of them needs to not find attractive the other.


    Siobhan21
    Participant
    September 30, 2017 at 2:46 am #151043

    @sye1776 Yes i understand what you’re saying but in my case he did find me attractive, he still does. You can’t go back on that, if you find someone attractive once you find them for life. So that’s why it strikes me as so weird that he calls me sister now! I guess it’s what @triciamint is suggesting…