Can you have a relationship with someone you're not physically attracted to?


Can you have a relationship with someone you're not physically attracted to?

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    June 4, 2016 at 9:27 am #102146
    Can you have a relationship with someone you're not physically attracted to?

    This guy and I have been best friends for 10 years. Recently he told me he was in love with me. I didn’t think of him that way until now. We’re mentally and emotionally compatible on every level. We talk all day long and we want all the same things out of life. But, in risk of sounding shallow, I don’t find him physically appealing at all in any way. I want to have a romantic relationship with him, but I can’t see myself kissing him, or even getting to the point of sex. Is there any hope? Can I trick myself into wanting something physical with him?

    June 4, 2016 at 11:32 am #102147

    You don’t necessarily require to find someone physically attractive to love them. In fact, the person I’m crushing on is definitely not sexually attractive in any way, but I still adore her.
    The feeling of love is more emotional than physical. So I’d definitely say that there is hope. You said that mentally and emotionally, you were very compatible, so that enough should make a good relationship.
    Sex and kissing aren’t necessarily the things that come with love, they are what show it.
    If you’re at least willing to kiss him and/or have sex with him at at least some point in your relationship, you should be fine. Hell, he might not even want sex. Most people do like kissing though.
    Hope this helps at least a bit. <(^-^)>

    June 5, 2016 at 4:16 pm #102198

    awww. I believe that over time that your love for him will grow even STRONGER to the point where his looks will grow on you…I’ve seen it happen before. Just give it time. All the best.