Cheating and Resentment

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Cheating and Resentment

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    darthzaria
    Participant
    August 24, 2015 at 9:52 am #84629
    Cheating and Resentment

    My girlfriend and I currently live together after a wild roller coaster of events that I’ll briefly summarize.

    1) In January we went on a romantic vacation together acting like a couple the entire time. We had sex. I found out she had a boyfriend about a week later.
    2) In March I visited her once we recovered from the first incident as her girlfriend and found she had been messaging guys on plenty of fish.
    3) One week after that I found out she’d slept with the guy from the January problem behind my back was cheating on me.

    Despite all that we have managed to survive. Possibly due to our nine year long childhood friendship. I moved to her state and we have been living together about three months. She has changed her behavior and is completely loving and devoted towards me. However, I still can ‘t trust her. Even in our best moments sometimes I can’t help but be angry for what she’s done. I want this to work. I really do. I just don’t know how to get over it. Any suggestions?


    Asha
    Participant
    May 31, 2017 at 2:55 pm #138003

    Hello, I can fully relate to your situation as I was in a similar relationship (now an ex). So I’ll say this, whebever trust is broken in a relationship, it is extremely hard to regain that level of trust again; and in most relationships where trust has been broken by cheating, the relationship 99% of the time does not work. Both parties in the relationship must want the same thing and must try equally to build the trust back. Cheating causes a lot of psychological damage to the partner who was cheated on, the one who did the cheating has to come to the realization that there will be good days but then there will be days where you will be angry and depressed and have low self esteem. It is good not being the infidelity up and especially when there is a fight/argument as it will bring up the past and will rip open old wounds and your relationship will be stuck in the past instead of moving forward to the future.