Dating a girl for 2 months, but now it seems like she's throwing up walls

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Dating a girl for 2 months, but now it seems like she's throwing up walls

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    Andrizzle
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    September 1, 2014 at 12:27 pm #60471
    Dating a girl for 2 months, but now it seems like she's throwing up walls

    I’m a 23 y.o. guy been dating a 23 y.o. girl for about 2 months now. Things have been going great. She’s started including herself in my group of friends and in the last couple weeks, we’ve seen each other pretty much all weekend.

    We still haven’t slept over or had sex yet. We make out and hold hands and are intimate in other ways. Last weekend we spent pretty much every day together. I was getting ready to have a relationship talk with her and I was dropping hints that it was coming.

    Friday we all went out and she was kinda distant, we talked and but didn’t really hold hands or anything. We did kiss when she went home. But things just felt weird.

    The next day I went over to her place and said we needed to talk. We talked for probably about an hour. I laid everything on the table, why we haven’t had sex yet, I felt that things felt different, the works. I found out she had ended an abusive relationship about a year ago.


    Andrizzle
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    September 1, 2014 at 12:29 pm #60472

    She said that she enjoys spending time and talking with me, but that she has had a hard time letting guys in and that when she starts feeling to comfortable with guys she throws a wall. She said that she wasn’t ready for a relationship, so I asked her if she wanted to keep dating but just take things slow. She said she did and that things were fine the way they were right now. We kissed for a good while after and I said I was happy we talked and she said she was, too.

    Yesterday, a bunch of my friends of my friends went to a football game and she and her friend were supposed to come. She made an effort to come find me, I missed her calls and eventually we met up right before the game. Her friend was being a huge bitch, though. As soon as we met up, my girl said they had been fighting all day. We were together for maybe 5 minutes and then her friend said I have your ticket and then just walked off. So my girl had to run after her so we didn’t even really get to spend time together.


    Andrizzle
    Participant
    September 2, 2014 at 8:48 am #60473

    My question is, should I just back off for a couple days and give her some space? I’ve read that girls who have been in abusive relationships take a lot longer for things to progress because they have a hard time trusting.