Dating a recovering alcoholic

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Dating a recovering alcoholic

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    JessC
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    October 31, 2017 at 12:34 pm #154609
    Dating a recovering alcoholic

    I’m dating a guy who recently told me he is a recovering alcoholic. I couldn’t handle that so I asked for a break. The other day we talked and it looks like things are picking up again. He knows my concerns of dating a man not yet 6 months sober. He is sweet, hard-working and close to his family. He decided on his own that he wants a sober/healthy life. He used to be a party guy, but wanted to stop 5 years ago, except his friends pressured him to continue partying. 6 months ago, he realized he didn’t want that life anymore so he left the party scene and moved into a sober house. He seems happy and healthy. We both make each other happy. My mom worries that this man tells me everything I want to hear to convince me to give him a chance. I see a man trying to turn his life around. He has a sponsor and goes to meetings weekly. Is it too soon to date him, or should I give him a chance? Anyone have experience dating a recovering alcoholic? What do you recommend?

    roy4567
    roy4567
    Participant
    October 31, 2017 at 1:21 pm #154614

    you can help him prayer. it only God that can save totally.


    1234eliza
    Participant
    October 31, 2017 at 5:09 pm #154626

    With alcohol it can be a bit difficult because it is a legal drug. 6 months is not so long but a good start.
    Do you drink alcohol?
    If you make each other happy, then I think you still should meet, but you should be a little careful about inviting too much, wait at least one year. I think everyone deserves a chance in life and maybe you’re the right one for him.He could also choose not to tell you about is recovery, it seems like he really wants to change his situation.


    JessC
    Participant
    November 1, 2017 at 11:28 am #154669

    I do drink socially. My friends are heavy drinkers. I have been reluctant about inviting him out with my friends, but he says he can handle it. I rather not invite him.

    We both said we’ll go slow. We are trying. He told me all about his recovery and how much it means to him. When I asked for the break he immediately went to an AA meeting to talk about his feelings to the group. He is trying hard to channel his feelings in a more healthy approach. I want to move slow but he always wants to see me. I have to pace things.


    amber1980
    Participant
    November 3, 2017 at 9:48 am #154905

    Its a long road but seems he’s making an effort so I would give him another change