Dealing with Girls Sexual Past


Dealing with Girls Sexual Past

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    June 26, 2016 at 2:30 am #104085
    Dealing with Girls Sexual Past

    So I have been dating this girl whom I really come to love, and who according to her mom she has never seen her feel this way towards anyone. I’ve known for a while a little about her sexual history and I know it silly for me to be stuck on this but I’m not sure what to do about it or what. So the situation is that she lost her virginity at 14, and has had a total of 2 sexual partners before me (one of which was her ex bf of 3 years). Not that its normal for 14 year olds to lose her virginity then, but I get hung up on this even though I dont look at her any differently, but its just always in the back of my mind. I would like to note that I lost my virginity to her a couple months back when I was 19 and she was 18. It this and the fact that she had sex with her most recent ex the day when she left him (basically for me) and she tried to deny this to me. I was so in love with her that I ended up giving her the chance to start things right with me, but that even sometimes just pops…

    June 26, 2016 at 2:38 am #104086

    ***but that *event* just pops up into my head. I would like to note that since that day she has done nothing but show me and is always willing to prove to me that’d shed never lie to me in such a way, and she has proven it, even letting me check her messages/social media accounts whenever I want, although I always deny to doing so because I want to be able to trust her beyond checking on her like that. I can gladly say that 4 months later and we are happy. When I’m with her, Im the happiest I’ve ever been with a girl.
    -I guess my 2 questions here are, how can I get my mindset right about her having lost her virginity at 14 and having slept with a total of 2 people before me? (I know in my head that thats ok, but for some reason its just sometimes nipping at me.
    -And the second one would be about how shes done anything and everything possible to show me that I’m the one she truly loves and has done nothing but be honest and done everything right to gain my trust. Do I just need time

    July 2, 2016 at 12:12 am #104333

    each person has his own sexual past and we need to accept that.

    July 2, 2016 at 1:31 pm #104345

    Live in the present and not in the past. The past of ones partner may be unpleasant but then your past is not what makes you. So, my counsel is, forget the past, focus and build your now and future. Your partner is yours, so take her as she is, accept her, and love your partner .