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desperate. PLEASE HELP

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    daniel
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    November 6, 2014 at 9:08 am #67112
    desperate. PLEASE HELP

    as preface, let me say I’m 22 and have never kissed a girl. I was homeschooled and I guess missed out on a lot of what may be obvious to most people when it comes to relationships. I am making some slow progress, as this past year I had my first date, and since I’ve been on several others. However, I feel like I don’t know how to “make a move.” Maybe I’m too timid, or maybe I don’t know when is the right moment to say, kiss a girl on a date, but I’m becoming more and more desperate and less and less confident in myself. I invited a girl over and cooked for her. It was a great, romantic evening, I believe she was interested in me, but at the end of the night, she still went home without even a kiss. I feel depressed because, if I missed a “perfect” chance like this with a girl, what chance do I have of ever getting anywhere with any girl?
    Maybe this isn’t an appropriate metaphor, but I feel like someone who missed a target at point-blank-range.
    What can I do to improve myself?


    sn8wman
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    November 6, 2014 at 12:05 pm #67125

    I was always the same way with girls. Lucky for me my first two girlfriends gave up waiting and just kissed me. It can be difficult to find the “perfect” time to kiss a girl and in many instances it may seem like the there was no good time to go in for the kiss. What I’ve found is if the girls does like you, if she’s clearly having a good time hanging out with you one-on-one and flirting with you, she is hoping for a kiss just as much as you are. It really doesn’t have to be the “perfect” time I have really messed up first kisses many I times but it doesn’t change that we both want a kiss, we just laugh about it later. It is really scary whenever you make a move on a girl but you just have to do you best to force yourself to do it. Don’t give up with the girl it’s okay if you don’t immediately kiss, if she does like you she be happy to go out again just keep trying to get the kisses, preferably towards the end of the night but if there is a time where you’re looking into each


    sn8wman
    Participant
    November 6, 2014 at 12:06 pm #67126

    other’s eyes just go for it. Chances are she waiting.