EBarbzParticipantSeptember 28, 2016 at 2:26 pm #112776
I met this woman a few weeks ago. We’ve hung out and gone on dates the past 3 weekends. She lives 30 minutes from me & we are both working full time so weekends are the only time we can go out.
This past weekend she texted me about her being sick. Was throwing up and feeling awful, I offered to come over and help her feel better. She said she didn’t want me to see her like this. I mentioned it was a good idea to go to the doctors if it continues.
Next day I text her asking how she is feeling. She replies “feeling much better”. I told her I was glad to hear that, and texts continued a little longer.
Did I act too much like a nice guy too soon? Did I do the right thing by offering to help her feel better? I tend to overanalyze and overthink everything. She told me the biggest quality she looks for in a guy is how nice he is. I don’t want to scare her away by offering to help and expressing that I actually felt bad she was sick. I don’t want to look like im moving to fast with this
krukrungyParticipantSeptember 30, 2016 at 12:46 pm #112881
Just be you and do what you think is right. There’s no right time for being nice. Just follow your instincts.
billloperParticipantOctober 1, 2016 at 6:42 am #112902
Showing that you care about her is certainly not a bad thing, especially if you are already dating her…
greenvoldParticipantOctober 1, 2016 at 12:43 pm #112905
Care but not enourmously. Live also your life for youself and results will come. But dont be an idiot to her too. Best is to care but not care so much that you get on her nerves
singsweatemojiParticipantOctober 1, 2016 at 6:23 pm #112910
It was a nice gesture and definitely not weird given that you guys are dating. You weren’t overbearing or insisting you care for her, and you’re even a little concerned you overreacted so you’re fine.
SnitchSeeker07ParticipantOctober 2, 2016 at 11:46 am #112929
I honestly think that how you reacted was perfect xx
OnlineDatingFailuresParticipantOctober 10, 2016 at 9:16 am #113520
EBarbz – that was a super sweet gesture. I don’t remember the last time a guy actually wanted to help me out when I was sick! Just be you!
sonder1234ParticipantOctober 10, 2016 at 12:48 pm #113650
As the other people above me have said, I think you’re fine. Women don’t really have any sort of aversion to nice guys, at least as far as I can tell. It’s guys who act nice and friendly but then expect something (even if it’s just a “chance”) in return that are really off-putting.
Austin PowersParticipantOctober 11, 2016 at 11:09 pm #113825
I’m one of the nice guys and if I have to pretend to be less nice to woman to keep her, then I’ll stop seeing her and move on to the next girl.
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