Did I do the right thing?

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Did I do the right thing?

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    Vesp8912
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    March 18, 2016 at 7:49 pm #96073
    Did I do the right thing?

    I’m looking for some advice on whether or not I have done the right thing in regard to this dating situation.

    I started talking to this guy online, we had been speaking for about a few weeks and he asked me on a date; and I accepted. A few days after I agreed to this date, a friend and I kissed; which I never planned.

    When I woke up the next morning, I went online and explained to this guy that I don’t think it would be a great idea for us to go on a date since something happened between a friend and I, and it wouldn’t feel right as it would be on my mind. Needless to say, the guy was not pleased, and said some pretty harsh things to me.

    Did I do the right thing by cancelling the date? I’ve never met this guy before, so it’s not as if we established an emotional connection. The reason why I cancelled the date was out of respect, I didn’t want to give off the wrong signals on the date, just to then tell him I won’t be seeing him again since I have feelings for someone else.


    osutwink92
    Participant
    March 21, 2016 at 4:17 pm #96159

    Well this other guy that you kissed, did you like him previously? Or was it just a kiss? It sounds to me like you have feelings for the guy you kissed. This guy you met online you don’t even know except through online connections and don’t have any sort of established relationship. I personally wouldn’t have let him go like that and would probably have gone on the date still, but that’s just me. Saying this, how do you know you and the guy you kissed will even work out or that he has the same reciprocated feelings. I never put all my eggs in one basket. Stay in touch.

    AndrewArmstrong
    AndrewArmstrong
    Participant
    April 5, 2016 at 10:49 pm #97144

    I think you did do the right thing. When you aren’t sure about what or who you want, you shouldn’t do anything that may hurt someone if you make a different decision. However, you should at least get to know the guy you met online. If you find out that you and your friend do not work out, you may want to date the guy from online once more.