Did I do the right thing here?

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Did I do the right thing here?

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    funnygirl123
    funnygirl123
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    August 21, 2014 at 8:13 am #59773
    Did I do the right thing here?

    So my friend and I have known each other for about 3yrs. I have been waiting patiently for him to be ready for a relationship. He still isn’t [he said so]. We used to go to church together. Before he left. But I got to talk to him privately before he went… and I told him how I felt. After months of flirting and soulful looks between us, I had a hunch that he liked me back. But still wasn’t sure. So I told him and he smiled, saying that he wasn’t ready for any relationship yet. We left the room on good terms. I felt a little low. But also that we had grown closer. Now I am back to waiting. I really felt that I needed to say it before he left or I wouldn’t forgive myself. Thing is, I sometimes get the feeling that I spoiled things. That I should not have said anything. I may be overthinking this, but what do you think?


    MaydayFate
    Participant
    August 21, 2014 at 2:12 pm #59806

    Well for starters, he didn’t say he doesn’t like you. Just that he’s not ready for a relationship 😛 Maybe that’s actually true so you shouldn’t worry about that. I think you’re over-thinking it. I mean if all it’s done has brought you closer then why worry about it?


    jackjohns
    Participant
    August 22, 2014 at 1:33 am #59846

    Everything is fine. But don’t catch yourself waiting for just him. Explore your options and if timing is perfect you may just end up with him in the end but don’t stress it.

    futurewendla
    futurewendla
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    August 22, 2014 at 7:08 pm #59877

    Don’t wait around for him. I’m not saying to completely write him off – he may come around – but don’t limit yourself to pining exclusively over him. If he’s ready, he’ll come around and by that time you’ll either still want him or you won’t.