Did I mess up a possible relationship?

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Did I mess up a possible relationship?

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    guestgirl24
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    February 14, 2014 at 2:13 pm #47831
    Did I mess up a possible relationship?

    Me and this guy have been cool since 2009. At first me and him didn’t really talk or hang out a lot until 2012. I thought we both had a great attraction for one another so I started to really like him. Although in the beginning I said I wanted a relationship before any intimacy I went against it and got intimate with him anyway because I thought we had great chemistry and thought whats the worst that can happen. Things were great at first like he would flirt with me and do couple like things with me. As time went on it seemed to had ceased. I feel I messed up having sex too soon with him, and me doing things to try to keep his attention. So eventually our friendship started to fall apart until it finally did. So I question if he ever really did like me? did I push him away? did I need to push him away?, did he use me? even though he said he didn’t care about sex to the point he had to play games to get what he want. But thoughts? what do you all think?

    swancman
    swancman
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    February 16, 2014 at 2:18 pm #47877

    Now, don’t take my word for it because I’m not a mind reader so I can’t read your friend’s intentions but based on what you typed here it sounds like he just wanted sex. The idea that having sex to keep a relationship is a lie; you don’t need sex to be happy. If you have to have sex to keep his attention then he isn’t worth your time.

    kingkoti
    kingkoti
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    April 11, 2014 at 6:01 pm #47871

    He wants to ride a roller coaster, and you took him on a boat ride. Jazz up by doing quite unconventional-you things.

    Most relationships I know started with ‘casual sex’, and then eventually became bonds. And i think that’s the natural way. And sex is not something you use to keep someone’s attention. Very bad approach from your side. I don’t think sex is something here to blame.