Did I miss the ball?

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Did I miss the ball?

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    Mcnair
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    March 20, 2013 at 9:24 pm #26506
    Did I miss the ball?

    There is a girl that I used to have a class with that I’m attracted to. I dropped the class the first week or so, so I didn’t get too much time to talk to her. I seen her recently at a party I went to, but I was really drunk and can’t really remember a thing we talked about. I do remember her talking about how she’d just got out of a 3 1/2 year relationship. I was definitely too drunk to think about asking for her number. I work at a cafeteria on campus, and she must have been eating there the next day because she made it a point to come and say bye to me as her and her friends were leaving. I added her on FB that night and we talked for a little bit. Apparently when I walked her to her dorm after the party, I completely spilled my guts to her about how I felt about her, which made it really awkward for me. We didn’t really talk too much though, and the messages were spaced. We were talking about the party, but after about 6 messages or so, she quit replying. I backed off of her for about a week, then tried to send another message, and still nothing. Did I miss the ball here?

    gmh5680
    gmh5680
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    March 21, 2013 at 12:25 pm #26566

    Aww! This sounds like one of two things: 1) too much too soon. she feels awkward because your feelings are more progressed and shes not sure where things stand for her. In the future its best to keep things light in the early stages and keep it low pressure. It sounds like there is hope tho, because she stopped to say hi to you after lunch. that HUGE! Yay! if she wan’t even considering you, she wouldn’t do that. your job now is to back off emotionally and let things be casual and fun.
    2) She may be the fence about you but likes you as a person and therefore doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. She may have brought up her 3 yr relationship as a way to deter you without making you feel rejected. If a girl likes you, she will be open to dating you, regardless of her dating history. I’d be wary of any girl who brings that up early. If she wasn’t so keen on chatting with you online, she may not be that enthusiastic about the relationship. Your best bet is to cool it for a bit, and she may just reconsider.


    Mcnair
    Participant
    March 21, 2013 at 8:00 pm #26647

    I’ve backed way off.. I haven’t talked to her online since then and I haven’t seen her in a while either.. I know ill see her next week as I have a conference with my advisor and she works at the front desk in that building… Guess ill have to see how it goes then…