Dilemna here need advice

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Dilemna here need advice

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    nakamuru
    nakamuru
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    February 13, 2014 at 10:51 pm #47776
    Dilemna here need advice

    Ok, I’m Korean and she is Japanese who came here as a abroad student. Met her online and she went back to her country after 3 months of dating her (spent everyday with her the last month and half though. She came from abusive previous bf so I really filled some of her void and helped her regain some trust in guys I think. She said she will be back to work in Seattle as flight attendant as she mentioned it didn’t require green card. But then later she realized she does and coming back this July will not be happening. Her dad is in Florida and has a green card and can get a sponsorship but will take up to year and half around. I can certainly wait for that because when I Skype and chat online.. It actually makes long distance relationship much less strenuous (I don’t know how people did it back in the days with no face chat)… (and also cost of international calling back then!!).. But she revealed something too me that was quite shocking.. She had a classmate that was —continued

    nakamuru
    nakamuru
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    February 13, 2014 at 10:56 pm #47777

    Australian and says she might be roomates with him and says that there will be no hanky panky and that they were just friends. Immediately my jaw dropped and realized why this was revealed just now. Her heart is very sweet but here wisdom is very lacking and seems like that’s why she doesn’t see this completely wrong.. So am I overreacting and I have trust issues.. or is this completely a red flag… Seems the guy is pursuing her though too (like she sent me message that he wanted to marry her… Ok obviously.. I realized. that’s a BIG RED FLAG… maybe im just so lost in love with her and the saying LOVE IS BLIND is really messing up my life… Gosh, I really don’t want my heart to be played with and since this is my first girlfriend I feel its gonna be very painful how it ends.. However, if I end on good terms and remain friends Ill support her


    shwaz499
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    February 13, 2014 at 11:54 pm #47778

    She was honest with you. If you feel like she is the kind of person that can be trusted, you should trust her. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell her. Maybe she can make different arrangements.

    joejoe123456
    joejoe123456
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    February 19, 2014 at 10:42 am #48003

    remaining friends would be a great way to stay in her life and show her you care