Do guys get nervous around girls they don't like?

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Do guys get nervous around girls they don't like?

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    chihanasuisai
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    May 8, 2015 at 11:28 pm #78660
    Do guys get nervous around girls they don't like?

    Hi guys. I’m new here.

    I just went on the most confusing date ever… I met up with this guy I met online, and he texted me every day for about a week until we met up. He always did seem sort of awkward but like he was trying to keep conversation going. He also mentioned that he would be moving away in a few months but he used the word “may” not “will.” Also, we were talking about other plans for if the first date went well. He seemed excited too, adding to the plans.

    So I met up with him, and he was a nervous mess. He was shaking, stuttering, mumbling and I could barely hear him. When we watched a movie together, he crossed his legs away from me and crossed his arms the entire time.

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    chihanasuisai
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    May 8, 2015 at 11:31 pm #78663

    We were also talking about shopping and stuff, but we ended up just doing dinner and a movie, and then he walked me to my car. Finally I straight up asked him if we would still be doing the other plans we talked about, and he said “Um.. We can hang out as friends, but I’m moving so… I don’t know about a relationship, but we could still hang out as friends…” and I agreed, but it still stung and I was confused.

    Basically what I’m asking is, do guys get nervous around girls they’re not interested in? Did he cut the date short and friendzone me because he decided he didn’t like me? Should I go ahead and text him to set up the plans he agreed to as friends or did he just say that to get rid of me peacefully? =( What on earth happened!?


    JeffS
    Participant
    May 9, 2015 at 9:19 pm #78688

    If he was shaking, etc, who knows, he may have some sort of anxiety issues and you might have been his first date ever.

    Would I be nervous with someone I’m not interested in once I meet them? No, if anything I’d be completely emotionally detached unless they did something to fluster me (i.e. catfish me). I would be looking to get rid of them peacefully as soon as I could without being rude.


    Anonymous
    May 11, 2015 at 4:09 am #78708

    Sometimes nerves are just nerves.


    chrisinindy
    Participant
    May 16, 2015 at 4:47 pm #79137

    I find that for me I tend to get more confident/cocky on a date that I am not interested in. So, to have him be anxious would make me think that he is interested. But, given the rest of the details you provided I’m leaning toward him just not having the social / personal skills that convey his level of interest. Of course, that make it difficult for you to determine his intent.

    If you like him, continue to go out and see if it gets better. But I wouldn’t be turning down other dates in the mean time.