Do I have a chance with this girl?


Do I have a chance with this girl?

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    March 13, 2018 at 4:55 am #167274
    Do I have a chance with this girl?

    Alright, so here is my story.
    I have this really amazing friend. She’s smart, funny and full of personality. Some people think she’s homely but I personally think she looks gorgeous. We’ve been friends for 2 years. Last year I asked her out but got rejected, saying she didn’t like me. I ended up getting a gf not long after, but it didn’t work out, and I never stopped liking this girl.
    I’m now wondering if there is any way at all I can ask her out again without ruining our friendship, making it awkward, or opening me to teasing from my guy friends. I’m normally very social, but around girls I’m attracted to I get super shy and self doubting. The girl has no boyfriend and as far as I know there is nobody she currently likes. She has never had a a boyfriend.
    The few things that make me hope are the fact that she still likes to do things like talk to me, share our music or hang out, and she was happy to remain friends after rejecting me.
    I desperately need advice. Please reply!

    • This topic was modified 5 days ago by  Doomsy. Reason: Typos

    March 15, 2018 at 1:51 am #167410

    Just ask her out again. If she rejects you again then you’ll know for sure to just remain her friend. But she may have a change of heart now

    March 15, 2018 at 7:40 am #167421

    If you really like and love her, hope for the best and stay positive.

    March 15, 2018 at 8:42 am #167414

    you are confusing friendship for romantic relationship. She is your friend. It does not sound like she likes you more than a friend. You should move on.

    In the future, do not make one girl the star of your movie. You are the star of your movie. It’s your movie. Talk to many girls. FInd the one you click with most and the one that likes you 100%. One thing you might want to avoid is falling in friend-zone. Google that. Basically you want to be a little clear on your intent. Preferably, not by words but by the vibe you give off. Have standards which sounds like you do. :). Also, eye contact. Super important. I know you’re shy around girls you like but practice this all the time. with everyone.

    March 15, 2018 at 8:42 am #167403

    Try and get closer to her and judge her actions based on that.

    March 15, 2018 at 8:20 pm #167462

    I would say you have a big chance since she had never had a bf , knowing that you can be her first, would be excellent!!You should ask her to be your gf in a cute way like a funny card or something creative 😀

    March 16, 2018 at 9:03 am #167478

    If she rejects you again … will it change your friendship??
    I became friends with a girl at a place I go for work. She was always flirty and friendly until I asked her out to lunch and she said… I’m sorry… maybe next time. Now, I have to see her every Tuesday when I go up there but instead of chatting. I use the side door when I leave so I don’t have to go by her office so she doesn’t think I am coming up there to see her.
    It’s too bad because I really enjoyed her friendship. Now, I realize she was just being nice…. because that is her job.

    Good luck.. I played the long “friend” game like that from 6th grade until Senior year and it eventually worked … after all of the older guys she always dated graduated.
    It could work…. consistency … goes a long way with girls if you got the time.

    March 16, 2018 at 9:21 am #167461

    @sinbad2011 I don’t agree with you. OP was probably not friendzoned but moreso had the intention of being this girl’s friend and his feelings developed later on. The exact same thing happened to me before and we later broke up but are still great friends today although he still likes me.

    @Doomsey I understand your situation perfectly. I would advise you to try and gauge whether she could see you as more than a friend before asking her out again as if she has no interest at all she may get annoyed. However, if you are still great friends after her rejecting you once then the friendship may last even if she said no to you again. My advice would be to broach the subject in a round about way instead of asking her out directly perhaps asking in a light hearted manner if she remembers when you asked her out and see how she reacts. Girls can be very hard to read I will admit but tbh she sounds like a nice girl and it sounds like you have a strong enough friendship no matter what happens 🙂

    March 16, 2018 at 8:52 pm #167614

    Has anything changed significantly between you since she rejected you? If not, you should probably move on.