Do I need to get over my crush?

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Do I need to get over my crush?

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    horsegirl48
    horsegirl48
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    November 7, 2014 at 6:50 pm #67225
    Do I need to get over my crush?

    Hi all!

    I’ve had a crush on a guy for over 2 years. He was my neighbour for 3 years and we used to talk several times a week (in person). I didn’t have a crush on him until after a year of knowing him, at that time, I rarely saw him as he was working & studying. I was 16 at the time.
    He then moved away and I didn’t see him. I got a boyfriend at 17 and my crush was then put at the back of my mind. The relationship was pretty casual and it was distance, I was more friends with him. Anyhow, one day I saw my crush and helped him do some stuff. The next day I woke up and suddenly had NO feelings for this poor guy I was dating.
    I then didn’t seem my crush for another year, when I ran into him in town. We spoke briefly as he was leaving for somewhere. We had texted each other over the year/s about what we were up to… After seeing him in town, I didn’t text him or anything, just left it. He then sends me a text late at night saying it was good seeing me & that we should catch up…


    janine87
    Participant
    November 8, 2014 at 9:42 am #67243

    If it doesn’t seem like he’s interested in being more than friends with you then yes it’s time to move on and let it go.

    horsegirl48
    horsegirl48
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    November 10, 2014 at 8:28 am #67226

    Part 2:

    I didn’t let myself reply straight away (I really wanted to as by this time, my crush had grown quite strong). So the next day I replied saying I could catch up in a few weeks or the next day as I was heading his way to a client. He replied straight away asking where to meet up.
    So, we met up at a cafe for a coffee and chatted for half an hour before he had to go to a basketball game. We said goodbye and he said we should catch up again soon.
    After that, I found myself thinking of him lots more. Remember, I’ve had a bad crush on him for 2 years!
    We’ve texted a couple of times since, just talking about our animals and stuff…
    I am trying very hard to NOT show too much interest in him for fear I will scar him off.
    I have only had one boyfriend + homeschooled for high school + don’t socialise so I have almost NO experience with guys! I have low self esteem too.

    My question is, how do I get over him? As I don’t know if he likes me or not and I hate feeling so confused!


    OMUd
    Participant
    November 10, 2014 at 1:21 pm #67368

    You should probably just tell him you’ve had a crush on him. Set the stage, be flirty with him, give him a big random hug and ask how he’s doing. Let him chase you for a little bit, dont do things like sit on his lap. Just give him hugs, guys like that. If he responds poorly or cocky, you probably dont want to be with him. Somwhere in between all of this, tell him something like “You know when I was younger, i had the biggest crush on you”

    MiB0809
    MiB0809
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    November 10, 2014 at 2:53 pm #67378

    I wouldn’t say give up. You should probably tell him how you feel and get to hanging out and stuff before you truly decide that. Just see if it’s right after a few dates maybe.


    pinktupee
    Participant
    November 11, 2014 at 1:51 am #67416

    Try hanging out before you get discouraged. Maybe he feels the same and wants to see where it goes