SophsxxParticipantNovember 9, 2016 at 8:54 am #116803
I met this great guy. We went on 2 dates which went super well. When arranging the third date he was very excited and even said that seeing me the next weekend would not even be soon enough.
Then I tried to confirm the date for Friday via text. He then: “I´m sorry but I am not available on Friday anymore. And as per your request of being straight forward, I don´t see meeting up again. I hope you have a great weekend” t ask him why he does not want to see me again. So he says “I think I have met someone else over the weekend and I do not want to mess anyone around” (this is quite noble and honest ) But then I just said stuff like I respect your decision but then I did something stupid, I said: “Let me know if things do not work out though ” and he literally said: “I will ;)”
So now I am in a shitty situation because I still have hope that he and the other girl wont work out. And I made myself look like I am ok with being a plan B. what must I do…. Just move on ? 🙁
AlycooleoParticipantNovember 9, 2016 at 3:31 pm #116858
Honestly, my dear, you should move on. It is 100% OK to mourn this relationship, though it was brief, don’t let anyone make you feel bad for that. I know how it feels to build someone up in your mind as a perfect guy when you hit it off and the emotions are mutual BUT, if they decide you’re no longer right for them, then that’s their loss. You sound like a wonderful person who probably has so much to offer in a relationship, and to someone else, all those things are exactly right for them. So, mourn a little. That’s ok. I know it sucks to not be chosen. But, I promise that a very lucky someone, on a very special someday, will discover that to them, you are their only choice. It’s worth waiting for it. Best of luck!
ChloParticipantNovember 10, 2016 at 6:07 pm #117066
You should be open to other relationships and meet other guys and make sure you love him enough because what if he ends up marrying this girl?
BlunderBussParticipantNovember 10, 2016 at 8:35 pm #117101
I think you handled it fine, and yes, you should move on. If I were him, I’d be glad to hear that I’m not burning any bridges by going out with the other girl. You may still have a chance, but I want to stress that you shouldn’t think about it. You’re only going to depress yourself if you continue to think about “what could be” with a boy that isn’t on the market and theoretically may never be available again.
yasmin18ParticipantNovember 11, 2016 at 12:39 pm #117118
MOVE ON AND HAVE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF.
You deserve better,yes he was really honest but at the same time he was a bit of a jerk.I think that he should at least explain better the situation and he didn’t.If he thinks that a new girl can replace you,that means that he is not THAT interested in your and you should move on and find something better love.
I hope it helps
SophsxxParticipantNovember 13, 2016 at 10:10 am #117155
I haven´t contacted him again after I wrote the post in this forum. I decided for myself now to not contact him again for at least a month because I do not want to appear like a crazy one 😉 I might be over him after that period but I probably just will check up on him and see how he is doing and then see if anything or nothing comes from his side.
MadisonVParticipantNovember 13, 2016 at 6:04 pm #117160
Move on, love. Simple as that. No need to stick around or hoping for him to be done with this other chick. Don’t settle.
LovelyBonesParticipantNovember 15, 2016 at 8:58 am #117282
The fact that he dropped you immediately after meeting someone else doesn’t bode well. I think you’re best to let it go and I wouldn’t contact him again. Let him contact you if he changes his mind. You want to be the girl that the guys tells other girls “sorry” for not the other way around. There’s probably a better fit for you elsewhere but I completely understand how you feel as the same thing happened to me a few months back and it sucks. Good luck!
happygirl1978ParticipantNovember 15, 2016 at 9:09 pm #117412
Yes move on . He is just being honest which i think is better .
amyblackParticipantNovember 17, 2016 at 10:41 am #117629
Please move on. There will only be anxiety and heartache in waiting around for him.
InfinityParticipantNovember 18, 2016 at 7:52 pm #117882
If he calls you, kindly tell him YOU have met someone else ( but maybe you’ll call him if that doesn’t work out)!
audiomanParticipantNovember 18, 2016 at 11:59 pm #117884
You need to move on. He obviously wasnt as into you as you perhaps thought if he suddenly met someone ‘better’. if you are really into someone you tend to have blinkers on for other people.
audiomanParticipantNovember 19, 2016 at 12:00 am #117885
BTW im a guy… am I allowed / supposed to comment in here? 🙂
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