Does complicated mean no?

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Does complicated mean no?

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    Expat
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    December 31, 2014 at 11:57 pm #69770
    Does complicated mean no?

    I’ve recently started getting closer with a girl who I’ve known for some years, but she recently moved to another country. We’ve been chatting on Facebook, and we’ve been doing a lot of flirting back and forth. She even invited me to come visit her in her new country, and has been dropping hints at when the “most romantic” time of the year would be good for a visit.

    Here’s the thing though, I’m 10 years older than her. She’s 18 and I’m 28. I knew her since she was 15, but was never attracted to her at that time. She was kind of a little sister in my eyes even though it was clear she had a crush on me. Now she’s grown up into a beautiful woman, and all around she’s my dream girl. The kind I’d really love to be with. Smart, cute, beautiful, popular, funny, etc.

    Here’s the problem. She suddenly stopped talking to me on Facebook for the past few days. I sent her a few messages, and she hasn’t replied. Is the situation just too complicated? Did she realize this and decided to stop?

    Roxy
    Roxy
    Participant
    January 1, 2015 at 6:34 am #69774

    Ok I’m not one to judge when it comes to age. I have been in a relationship where the guy was 7 years older. As long as she’s mature enough for you, I think it’s fine. What are you wanting to come of this? Are you hoping it might lead to something more serious?it would be pretty hard when she’s living in another country and I think that maybe the reason she hasn’t replied. She may feel that once that visit is over what next. So you could be right in thinking it maybe too complicated but then again she just could be super busy.


    throwaway1944
    Participant
    January 1, 2015 at 8:35 pm #69777

    Usually something like this does mean no. sorry man


    Expat
    Participant
    January 2, 2015 at 9:36 am #69793

    Ok here’s an update. She finally sent me a message after a few days. Turns out she went on a short day trip with some friends and was mostly out of Internet contact, although she did update her status on facebook a few times while she was gone. Seems to me if she was really interested, she probably would have replied rather than waiting until she got back.

    Is it time to throw in the towel with her? I’m fine with friends, but was hoping for something more.


    newyork12646412
    Participant
    January 2, 2015 at 9:03 pm #69813

    Could be mixed signals