Ex-Boyfriend hang ups (from her)

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Ex-Boyfriend hang ups (from her)

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    Vigalantejustice
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    January 13, 2014 at 2:16 pm #45949
    Ex-Boyfriend hang ups (from her)

    Alright, soooo me and this girl have been dating for about 5 months, and long story short, she still is hung up over her ex-boyfriend. Which, is understandable, neither of them wanted to break it off, but the age difference was freaking her parents out (5ish years I think). So that is the premise of their breakup, after that happened, skip forward a month and she starts talking to me, like alot, and we started dating obviously, about 2 weeks(?) into the relationship, she calls it off, says she misses him, can’t be with me when shes thinking of him, bla bla bla… Couple days later, she says she chooses me, and we continue to date, because I’m a sucker who can’t say no to those eyes. So you would think the problem was over right? Nope flash forward to present day, and she still misses him. My question is why? I treat her way better than he did, respect her, have completely given myself up to her. She tells me she loves me but can she if she truly misses him? I don’t know what to do :/

    Zeus
    Zeus
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    January 14, 2014 at 8:45 pm #45991

    Unless you’ve been with a person for easily over 2 years, never take the remark, “I love you” seriously.
    One possible reason for “Why” is because he has 5 years more experience than you, and you may be too much of a “Yes” man. These “Yes” guys become boring after awhile.

    This is what you do: Start dating other girls. Keep in mind that “Dating” is not exclusive. Exclusivity takes time. Don’t rush it.


    Vigalantejustice
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    April 7, 2014 at 6:41 pm #46006

    Right, I could see that… What exactly is a “yes” man?


    Vigalantejustice
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    April 7, 2014 at 6:41 pm #46007

    Right… I could see that, what exactly is a “yes” man?


    Vigalantejustice
    Participant
    April 7, 2014 at 6:41 pm #46044

    All right, I could very easily see that…

    Unless you’ve been with a person for easily over 2 years, never take the remark, “I love you” seriously. One possible reason for “Why” is because he has 5 years more experience than you, and you may be too much of a “Yes” man. These “Yes” guys become boring after awhile.
    This is what you do: Start dating other girls. Keep in mind that “Dating” is not exclusive. Exclusivity takes time. Don’t rush it.

    Could anyone expound on what a “yes” man is?

    foreel
    foreel
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    April 11, 2014 at 11:17 am #50968

    Just a thought but… Could she have been a virgin when she was with her ex.? Most people regardless of sexual preference tend to remember their first sexual encounter and often form a loving attachment (possibly one sided) that can be very difficult to get over. If you really love her, talk with her and gently find out where her attachment to him is stemming from.

    foreel
    foreel
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    April 11, 2014 at 11:25 am #50970

    “Yes Man” – A counterpart that will agree to *anything* regardless of how crazy or stupid – and sometimes illegal it is.
    (information comes from:)
    http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=yes+man

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by foreel foreel. Reason: more accurate info