Ex, FWB, all good things come to an end

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Ex, FWB, all good things come to an end

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    Instinct101
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    September 12, 2014 at 3:09 am #61833
    Ex, FWB, all good things come to an end

    Dated my ex for almost two years. Broke up when I couldn’t find long term motivation to stay with her and moved away for almost two years. While I was gone, I’d made efforts to maintain a friendship cus she’s a cool woman and I’m a lover, not a fighter. I’ve been back for a year and we’ve been regular fwb most of the time.

    Anyway, I went on vacation 2 weeks ago. We hooked up a week before I left. Wasn’t likely to have another opportunity to see her before I left, but the day before I did leave, we ended up going to a mutual hangout coincidentally.

    I rushed her over because she said she wanted to see me before I left and she was planning on coming to the place where I was finishing up at. She was upset as it turns out I almost didn’t see her and she slapped me really hard on the leg out of an angry outburst in the car.

    Two days after I return, I hadn’t a chance to call or see her and she blew my phone up angry I didn’t see her.

    I’m about over hanging out. thoughts?

    KittyHammer
    KittyHammer
    Participant
    September 15, 2014 at 8:46 am #61933

    If you are over hanging out: then let it be done. Unless the time you spend with her is worth it. Just remember: it starts with an angry outburst.


    phonicaubade
    Participant
    September 15, 2014 at 9:25 am #61978

    I would say run. If you feel compelled to give her the decency of a good bye Jane note, then write all of your past, present, and future thoughts down then do a no-contact. Erase her from your phone and Facebook if you have to. Don’t forget to save photos if there are some fond memories that you want to save. Otherwise ending a relationship because it is doing you a disservice is like quitting smoking. You have to do it cold turkey. If you want to start a new relationship with another woman, the new one would not likely stick around if this current one is still in your life in an unhealthy way. Hope this helps.

    – julie


    Instinct101
    Participant
    September 16, 2014 at 8:53 am #62005

    Thank you. After a couple of days mulling it over, I think I’ve come to the same conclusion. It’s too bad. She’s a smart, strong woman; just incompatible and I’m not worth interfering or changing for. If she weren’t so damned convinced she is co-dependent for happiness, she could be the wonderfully successful woman I know she can be. I hate to be a positive encouragment that she no longer has, but I haven’t felt this personally insulted since what led up to our departing the first time years ago, now. Fooled me once, fooled me twice, I suppose.


    Instinct101
    Participant
    September 16, 2014 at 8:54 am #62006

    Thank you. After having mulled it over for a few days now, I think I’ve come to the same conclusion. Its too bad. She’s a strong, intelligent woman and my feelings are it isn’t worth my interfering or her changing for. If she weren’t so daggone stubborn about believing her happiness is rooted in co-dependency, she would become the successful woman I know she can be. I hate to be a positive encouragment in her life and walk away, but I haven’t felt this personally insulted since the event that first led to my walking away a few years ago now. It just is too bad. Fooled me once, fooled me twice, I suppose. I will grieve the loss of this friendship.

    Thank you again for your thoughts.


    chrissdaniel
    Participant
    September 19, 2014 at 7:16 am #62240

    Maybe she is a good girl but maybe not the one for you. seems like her personality and your thoughts about the long term doesn’t add up together