Forbidden to say the word "Relax" to her or she gets worse… stubborn girl?

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Forbidden to say the word "Relax" to her or she gets worse… stubborn girl?

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    luckdog313
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    September 25, 2013 at 10:11 pm #39939
    Forbidden to say the word "Relax" to her or she gets worse… stubborn girl?

    My girlfriend is absolutely amazing and it is so attractive how strong and talented she really is being independent. However, she hates it when I say the word “Relax” and it is really annoying when she gets irritated. The best technique approved by her is to ignore her when she is like this. She has always done everything by herself and never had anyone fight her back or has been strong enough to deal with it on her own.

    This is my first really good relationship in a long time so I really don’t have much experience with any other strong willed and independent girls so its intimadating to have such a great girl, but what can I do to help her accept the word “Relax” or anything else to help her grow out of her what I call “mini-ox stubborness”. thank you in advance for all of your help. let me know if you want me to explain further.

    sharklasers
    sharklasers
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    September 26, 2013 at 2:13 pm #40034

    She doesn’t sound strong willed or independent. She just sounds like a jerk dude. If she was strong willed she would have no problem with relax anyway. I think the only way to get her to accept the word relax is to actually have her relax. Get her a massage or something.

    TFerguson
    TFerguson
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    September 26, 2013 at 2:18 pm #40051

    Maybe when she hears you say “relax”, she thinks you’re being nasty toward her? Sometimes it comes across very condescending.

    I’d say just find another word to use around her if it bothers her that much.

    dressygrl
    dressygrl
    Participant
    September 26, 2013 at 2:19 pm #40054

    Take it from me that being told to ‘relax’ makes it sound like she is overreacting or worse. Maybe you can take an altenate approach and say “how can I help” or “is there anything I can do?”. Then you don’t sound like you are giving her directions.

    Sid Arthur
    Sid Arthur
    Participant
    September 26, 2013 at 2:22 pm #40047

    Freedom of speech …. enough said.

    lay_d_devil
    lay_d_devil
    Participant
    September 26, 2013 at 2:24 pm #40069

    Agreed with dressygirl. Some people have a pet-peeve with being told what to do, even if its not meant that way. Figure out another way to help with out telling her what to do.