Getting fit together isn't working

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Getting fit together isn't working

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    pmag
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    December 25, 2016 at 2:43 am #121028
    Getting fit together isn't working

    I want to be fit. I want that for my girlfriend too. So does she. She complains about how clothes look on her. She is very attractive but could be in better shape. Obviously, I’m on board. She is all talk but little action. I tried to make it a thing we do together. It would benefit our relationship. I’ve been running and/or working out near daily but she doesn’t like running or doing any of my workouts with me. She doesn’t want to exert. Her workouts don’t do it for me. It’s hard to stay motivated if we’re not in it together, but I’m doing ok. She’s not. She got a gym membership months ago but isn’t using it. It’s a sore subject. We both need to lose weight, but only a bit overweight, enough that it’s not helping the sex life. We are at a point in our young adult lives that we need to do this now or we will slip.

    How do I make it work?


    AcesDJD
    Participant
    December 27, 2016 at 9:32 am #121055

    I prefer women who are somewhat overweight, but if you like in shape women what you’re saying doesn’t bode well. Is there any activity she used to do in the past like dance or softball or whatever that she might want to get back into? This doesn’t sound like something worth making too much of a deal over, but if its a big issue for you I’ve heard it as a complaint from so many friends and coworkers. Pounds tend to accumulate rather than go away.


    pmag
    Participant
    December 28, 2016 at 12:39 am #121180

    I like a thick booty and legs as well as the next guy, but I like a shapely (or at least trying-to-be) midsection, The effort to be healthy is more important than the look, to be honest. To answer your question, I’m not aware of any athletic hobbies or sports in her past. She claims that running makes her feel sick. Exercise makes her too sore. She was rail thin into her twenties and now not so much. It is a big issue for me because I’m getting a lot more attention from women now and shouldn’t have to wonder about “what if.” It’s impacted my attraction towards her. We’ve been together for four years and I like her personality quite a bit, but I don’t see myself settling down or having kids with her if she can’t keep up. I foresee the problem worsening. I just want her to try.


    pmag
    Participant
    December 28, 2016 at 7:01 pm #121247

    Any advice would be nice. Thanks.


    asa1984
    Participant
    December 28, 2016 at 8:35 pm #121248

    As an alternative to going to the gym, there are other underrated forms of physical activity that could make a huge difference that you or may not be aware of. Maybe you guys can go on walks, hikes, ask her what she would like to do on your rest days and help her to understand the benefits of being healthy together and as individuals. Additionally in an effort to help her get into the swing of things you may have to take it to her pace while gradually increasing the intensity. Instead of a daily workout together, make it every other day so that you won’t lose out too much and she won’t be left feeling too sore. It takes time and sometimes we have to give a nudge to get them moving. Hope this helps.