March 1, 2017 at 1:48 pm #128684
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 7 months. Crazy about her. And she is about me. Says she loves me. Talks about eventually moving in together down the road etc.
One thing that kind of bothers me, is that she will always ask if my best friend will be hanging out with us, if we ever go out.
My best friend is in a relationship, and has been for over a year.
They both are happy.
My girlfriend has met both in the past, at partys etc.
Whenever we go out with friends or to an event, my girlfriend will ask if he will be there.
Example is we are going out of town for St. Paddys day, and my girlfriend asked if my friend was also joining.
Am I thinking too much into this, or should I be concerned.March 1, 2017 at 5:11 pm #128720
definitely no way that can be a positive sign of any kind.
but it doens’t mean it’s a negative sign.
can you tell us more about what she specifcially asks and how often and if she asks for more details than what you’ve told us? Or is it always just “will he be there” whenever you guys are goin out with friends?
thanks.March 2, 2017 at 8:48 am #128748
Its not an everyday thing. Just times when there is an event/gathering of some kind. Usually if the plans involve multiple people, she will ask.
She doesn’t ask for more details after the yes or no.
A number of us are going out of town, for the St. Paddys Parade. She asked if he is going.
Around Christmas we had Ugly sweater event. She asked if he was going.
She asked if we were hanging out with him on New Years.
Times like that.
She will specially ask about him, not any other friends.
She mentions she thinks he is a cool guy, and “likes” him, in the sense that he seems like a nice guy and not a jerk
RoxOliParticipantMarch 2, 2017 at 8:48 am #128746
Yeah, I would like to know more to be able to help…
Jack of HeartsParticipantMarch 2, 2017 at 10:41 am #128794
I wouldn’t say it’s completely normal, but it may not necessarily be something malicious. I think the best thing is to put her in the hot seat. Ask her why she keeps asking about it, not in a interrogative way, but casually bring it up. See what her response is and how honest she seems with it.March 2, 2017 at 11:22 am #128813
I wanted to bring it up. But I have been holding back. Didn’t know if I should. I don’t want to start something unnecessary if it isMarch 2, 2017 at 1:53 pm #128835
last question.. does she ask about anybody else?
i lied.. another last question. does she give any reaction when you say “yes” vs “no” to him coming or not?
Thanks.March 2, 2017 at 1:54 pm #128836
yeah don’t bring it up yet. let’s get a better feel for it first… for now.. just keep noticing how she behaves and any pattersn when it comes to this guy vs your other friends. that’s where the answer will lieMarch 2, 2017 at 3:08 pm #128865
No doesn’t ask about anyone else.
Response is usually “ohh cool”. No other questions.
Whenever we hang out, she always only hangs around me. Never talks by herself or do anything suspicious
Jack of HeartsParticipantMarch 3, 2017 at 9:00 am #128822
If you believe it may be unnecessary, it makes me think that you should wait a bit longer to see how things progress. If it starts to eat at you, and you hold it in, trust me, it’s going to blow up. Better to talk about it while your calm, cool and collected, rather than after it escalates and you lash out.
I just gave you contradictory advice, but I don’t know exactly how you feel about it. If you think you can stay calm a bit longer, do so, but don’t let it get to a point where you blow up.March 3, 2017 at 5:59 pm #129066
how does she act towards him during these gorup outtings and he’s there?
is there a difference in the way she acts when he’s not there?March 6, 2017 at 10:01 am #129138
No difference. Just small talk. Conversations only usually last a few minutes. She will never go off on her own. Will always hang around me.
Bittersweet90ParticipantMarch 7, 2017 at 11:04 am #129248
So have you asked her yet??
Does your friend ever mention her whenever you and him hang out??
JohnnyParticipantMarch 9, 2017 at 8:58 am #129524
I would like to share my experience with you.
My gf used to mention a guy. I started to count and about say 5 to 6 times in say one morning. One day I can wait and just ask her. She admitted that she is thinking of him sometimes otherwise she will not mention him quite frequently. We are still bf/gf but I knew she is not that into me.
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