Girlfriend I know is being played!

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Girlfriend I know is being played!

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  • Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
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    dumbGames
    dumbGames
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    December 11, 2012 at 10:14 am #18537
    Girlfriend I know is being played!

    A girlfriend of mine thinks this guy she’s known for 2 weeks is well worth her time– hovering over her phone, waiting to frantically pick up the phone whenever a text comes in. She’s been stood up by him on multiple occasions when he has some excuse that his roommates need him for some event (that conveniently became scheduled).

    Only thing is, when they hang out in person (which is rare) he’s interested, all over her, and acts like they’re dating.

    So, what I’VE told her is to back off. Other girlfriends say play it off like she’s not interested and ignore his texts on purpose.

    I personally think he’s playing her like a rag doll on strings. Other friends think he’s just shy and nervous about commitment. I call bull. He has a part-time job a few hours north of where we live but the other half off the time he’s back in town with his roommates playing video games and teasing my friend.

    Anyway, can anyone justify my advice to my friend or should she try to beat him at his own game?

    abigail
    abigail
    Participant
    December 13, 2012 at 1:00 pm #18745

    I think being “played” is a simple way for someone to classify a guy or girl because they can’t explain certain situations.

    It’s obvious she doesn’t have all the answers and everyone seems to be guessing what’s in his head without just plain asking him. Have her sit down and talk to him, 2 weeks isn’t terribly long but since they seem interested in each other, it’s worth it just to ask if the guy would like to pursue her in a serious or friendly manner.


    jake_atl
    Participant
    February 7, 2018 at 6:08 am #164788

    Get rid of her


    WhereIsChivalry
    Participant
    February 7, 2018 at 9:53 pm #164934

    Hmmm…being how she s only dated him for 2 weeks Idk if anyone should have too many feelings invested in such a short time any way it goes and it seems like in 2 weeks one would still be taking the time getting to know eachother. I have learned long ago tho that people so what they want Your opinion ia just that…an opinion, as is any one else’s. You don’t know for sure what he has going on to make assumptions. Maybe he does gwt legitimately busy…Idk…and u said he is VERY attentive when they do get in person. As any of us…u should always take your time getting to know someone…insist on monogamy before sex…and don’t be too quick to judge someone in 2 weeks that u your self isn’t dealing with People will always do what they want o matter what any one else says.


    WhereIsChivalry
    Participant
    February 7, 2018 at 9:54 pm #164935

    Yassss!👏👏 agreed…not to mention…no one should be playing games. No matter what.


    missmaris
    Participant
    February 14, 2018 at 12:36 am #165513

    2 weeks isn’t long to judge. If this is the way it is as week progress then yes. She needs to change the game. She needs to become unavailable. Answer he calls a lot later. Be busy and schedule times when she is free, not hen he is. And cancel on him , as he has done her. Then you will see him chasing. She is already, 2 week in become too available and needy. Its hard I know, when you like someone and its all exciting. But he needs to chase. She is the prize. She needs to behave like the prize and let him work for her. If he doesn’t and continues that behaviour then he needs to go.