Girlfriend needs to hear I love you all the time

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Girlfriend needs to hear I love you all the time

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  • Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
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    109ball02
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    July 1, 2016 at 5:33 am #104290
    Girlfriend needs to hear I love you all the time

    Seeing her like 6 or 7 months. I do love her. She says ILY in the morning, wile texting says she misses me and ILY, when we are driving down the road will look at me and say it or when we kiss, she will say it. Like 5 times a day literally sometimes. Its like she needs to hear it and is waiting for me not to say it back one time. She’s insecure and has been burned a lot in the past. I get it. I do love her…. but how should I tackle this? I don’t want the word to loose its meaning. Ive told her before in the past “dont say that unless you mean it.” Its easy to say ILY, and I do.. But you guys get where I’m coming from? Anything I can say to her?

    • This topic was modified 1 year, 5 months ago by  109ball02.

    Love Explained
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    July 5, 2016 at 7:59 am #104363

    I don’t think being a guy has anything to do with this. A guy could be insecure and need to hear it from a woman. A woman could be insecure and need to hear it from a woman. A man could be insecure and need to hear it from a man.
    She obviously needs to hear this, needs it. She does not know you love her. If she is someone you want to be with you should try to understand this about her and say it ILY. You said it was easy. Shouldn’t you want to do something like this for a person you want to be with.
    Some suggestions would be to say ILY before she says it or to say “ditto” when she says it first.

    eljay
    eljay
    Participant
    July 5, 2016 at 8:00 am #104392

    The best remedy for a person that is insecure, is to have them make you feel secure. The more they see that you are secure the more they feel secure. She is saying I love you a lot for reassurance. The problem is (even if you are secure) she doesn’t feel that you are secure. So have her make you feel secure. The next time she says I love you say to her “show me”. The more she does to show you how much she loves you, the more secure she will feel. Do not let her reverse it on you by asking you how or what she can do to show you that she loves you. If you tell her what to do for you it will make her more insecure. Tell her she must show you (say something like ” you love me there your hear will know how to show me”). Don’t give up on her because she is insecure remember she was hurt. this will help


    ahethop
    Participant
    July 6, 2016 at 6:45 pm #104570

    Just sit her down and talk about it seriously. I’m sure she’ll understand if you come out completely with it. It will be more special if you don’t use it as often.