Girlfriend says she is suffering from anxiety, what do I do?

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Girlfriend says she is suffering from anxiety, what do I do?

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    RickJ12
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    February 15, 2017 at 3:45 am #126990
    Girlfriend says she is suffering from anxiety, what do I do?

    I have been going out with my girlfriend for around 1 month. She came on quite strong when we started talking, she knows I have been hurt in the past so reassured me she would never do that, said all the right things, was lovely. Last Friday was the 1st real quality time we got to spend together, went well. We had plans for Saturday but had to cancel as she said she was ill. Yesterday was Valentines day we had plans,she text to cancel saying she was suffering from anxiety and didn’t want to see anyone. So I have this girl I really like, who came on so strong, initiated the relationship, now cancelling plans quite a lot but saying its nothing to do with me, its her going through some stuff. I have said I will be there for her if she needs me, but I am concerned I am just never going to see her. She is close to her family, as I am to mine, but I just feel like there is no room for me at the moment, and questioning why she wanted a relationship? I really am unsure how to approach this?


    sealegs
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    February 15, 2017 at 9:17 am #126996

    Seems like she just might be legitimately going through some stuff, so it might actually not be you or anything negative related to you. But I guess it depends how into her you are. If you want to keep things going with her I would just say offer her support and if she’s not up to doing things let her know its ok.

    It also depends if you think she is being honest with you, but it seems like she is being open with you, so I would just continue being supportive and letting you know you will be there. Maybe ask some other things like if there is a way you can help, or maybe tell her you want to hang out to get her mind off things and have a good time? Tough situation but seems like you approached it well so far.


    RickJ12
    Participant
    February 15, 2017 at 3:37 pm #127058

    Thanks sealegs. I do believe her, I am a pretty good judge of character normally so would be stunned if this was made up or exaggerated just go get out of stuff. She calls me and says she is lucky and that we are a team, which feels nice, and I do really like her.

    I am going to drop round the valentines gifts I got her, even though she isn’t home. Just to say I am there for her if she needs me. I guess all I can do is be there, and just hope in time she can be more comfortable.


    sealegs
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    February 15, 2017 at 4:49 pm #127135

    Yeah, sounds like she is just going through a rough patch, especially since she seems trustworthy and not just like she is jerking you around. Sounds to me like you are approaching it well and I’m sure she will appreciate it, and honestly it will probably make your relationship even better since you are showing you support her.