Give space or keep contact? Not sure what to do


Give space or keep contact? Not sure what to do

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    June 20, 2017 at 12:21 pm #140027
    Give space or keep contact? Not sure what to do

    The girl I’m seeing got mad at me because I overreacted and got a little upset that she’s considering moving to progress her career. I can’t fault her for that, but I was hoping to develop something more. She said she did not want to jump into a relationship and that things were moving too fast. After a text-fight on Thu I asked her if we were over and she said “idk right now…not exactly thrilled about any of this”. I sent her flowers the following day (Fri), at which point she said I didn’t need to send anything. I told her I wanted to because I felt bad. She thanked me and said it was nice. I asked her if we could talk later that night when she got off work, and she said “<My name> we did talk”. I asked if we were over and she responded with “omg please don’t be so pushy”. I apologized and let her be. Didn’t hear from her until the following night (Sat) when she sent me a meme regarding an inside joke we had on our first date.

    June 20, 2017 at 12:22 pm #140028

    (CONTINUATION) I wasn’t sure if she was over the fight since she didn’t bring it up, so I kept the conversation brief. She then started talking to me on Snapchat, eventually asking what I was up to. I told her I was in bed going to sleep and in the morning I woke to a message that said “sweet dreams”. The last time we talked was Sunday night when I asked texted her saying how I hoped she had a great Father’s Day. She responded with “Hey <my name>, thanks we have, we’re just winding down now. Might have to go to the grocery store tho” and I said “Cool. Glad to hear”. Here it is noon Tuesday and we have not talked. I don’t want to text her and risk encroaching on her space, but I also don’t want her to think I moved on.

    What should I do from here?

    June 21, 2017 at 2:37 pm #140177

    Give her a bit of space and time to think, she said that everything was moving too fast, so leave her be for another few weeks then if she hasn’t contacted you try messaging her with some general chit chat nothing too heavy.

    July 6, 2017 at 4:28 am #141342

    I would leave it a few weeks and contact her keeping it light hearted but I am no Romeo.

    July 9, 2017 at 11:53 pm #141447

    I think for future reference, you can respond to her texts by revealing more about yourself/what you’ve been up to or just ask follow-up questions to her.

    July 10, 2017 at 8:16 am #141457

    Same as AlwaysFindingPie

    July 10, 2017 at 12:47 pm #141543

    alwaysfindingpie I agree with you

    July 10, 2017 at 5:24 pm #141639

    you should never act needy to a girl, give her space

    July 16, 2017 at 6:00 am #142279

    Try to find other hobbies like gym or reading or something to distract you on pushing her too much.