whoknows12ParticipantOctober 17, 2016 at 9:00 pm #114406
Met guy on dating app. Date day, texted making sure I didn’t just get out of a long term relationship (LTR). We’ve both been single and are looking for a LTR. He said he’s ready for marriage if he finds the right person.
Date went well, lasted ~2 hours. He said he had fun after it. I said I did too and we should do it again, he said “are you just saying that? so you’ll answer if I text you?” I assured him I would. When my taxi came he said “wait, I want to do something”. He held my face and kissed me. It was nice. It felt a little rushed bc the taxi was there STARING.
He texted me that evening “thanks for a fun date :)” The next day I texted asking to go out again on xday. He replied “sorry i’ve been in work stress mode, I’d love to go out again. Can we play xday by ear? I have a proj with lots of planning. I should be able to meet for a bit xpm or after”
I said t”hat’s fine, just let me know! if not, maybe next week 🙂 good luck planning” Was I blown oft? Legit? what to do?
MilitantMaladiesParticipantOctober 18, 2016 at 4:07 am #114407
hmmm.. I think he is just testing you. because I would do the same to build up excitement. or he’s just really busy. I suggest don’t over think it. 🙂
transform yourselfParticipantOctober 19, 2016 at 11:55 am #114631
My advice is to chill out and don’t keep chasing him or appearing too keen. You have both had a good first date and he seems like he has a busy life. If he genuinely wants to see you again, he will contact you to arrange something. If he doesn’t contact you in a week, what I would advise is to set up a solid plan and suggest some days.
Give it a week and then send a message saying “Let’s grab some cocktails. I know this bar it will feel like you are on a summer holiday, I can meet Tuesday or Wednesday evening, so pick the best day for you?”. Take the initiative and take the lead. This is one sure way to secure a date as you’ve noticed one thing I’ve used is the assumptive close which makes the other person feel the date is happening.
Any questions, please feel free to drop me a line.
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