Guy asked me out for a first date! I need help

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Guy asked me out for a first date! I need help

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    charlieeee
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    January 29, 2017 at 3:23 pm #124897
    Guy asked me out for a first date! I need help

    So i have been talking to this guy online for about a week now, i approached him first on the online dating app and he recently asked me out for a first date. He asked to pick a day that would work for me sometime, I offered him to meet up on Friday this week, he then responds saying he is busy that day because his family is coming to town so he asked me to go on a date on Saturday? Im confused… should say yes to Saturday or say Im busy and ask him for some other day. I feel i may come off as too strong or desperate if i say yes because I was the one who initiated the conversation. I need some advice. Thanks!


    annabo88
    Participant
    February 1, 2017 at 12:14 pm #125312

    Say yes to Saturday. You won’t come off as desperate because he was the one that asked you out on a first date in the first place! It’s clear that he wants to meet up with you since he has offered an alternative day. I say go for it!

    richiro
    richiro
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    February 1, 2017 at 12:24 pm #125320

    hmmm.. okay its your choice. do you want to portray an image? or have a date with the guy?
    if it were me.. i would say yes and get my foot in the door.. and if you have to set boundaries, set them later after you’re int the door.

    a “i’m busy” may lose him forever b/c he will immediately tag you (and rightfully so) as a “game player” that would rather answer to play the game, then answer honetsly.

    but that’s just me. i certainly undersatnd wanting to set boundaries early on – i am a big proponent of that. but doing it before you’re foot is in the door could quash it and that’s the danger you play for playing games a bit too early.

    so it’s whatever is more of a priority and more important to you – see him, or set the boundary now.


    charlieeee
    Participant
    February 22, 2017 at 10:49 pm #127902

    That is very helpful…funny to think about this now because i ended not going on first date with this guy for other reasons. But your advice is very helpful for future first dates! Thanks!


    charlieeee
    Participant
    February 23, 2017 at 8:59 am #127903

    Thanks for the advice!