guy pulling away? what to do?

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guy pulling away? what to do?

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    guitarlover5
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    May 20, 2015 at 11:48 pm #79445
    guy pulling away? what to do?

    Hello Everyone,
    So I have liked this guy for a while for about a year n half . and we talked every so often at a grocery store he started to work at.
    I later on added him on facebook and didnt talk to him for a while but ask how hes doing.
    Then later on he messaged me asking how i was doing, we started to talk a little more. & he said he deffinatly wanted to hang out.
    So I brought my friend along with me just bc i didn’t want to go alone for the first time actually hanging out with him. so I brought my friend along and it seemed like it went well. we talked about art , and music, and he works in construction which is great because I am going to school for interior design.
    so after I waited a little while and said I enjoyed the day and it was fun. and we talked a little bit thorugh text after that.
    I was going to a concert and he said he thought it be fun. I sent him the set list then all of a sudden he didnt reply. so i waited a little while amd then it was his birthday. ..


    guitarlover5
    Participant
    May 20, 2015 at 11:52 pm #79446

    I felt like I should say happy birthday to him so i just called him and left a voice mail saying happy birthday and hope he has a great day.
    I didnt hear anything , so i didnt want to be a nagg so i just didnt ask how his birthday was or anything. so i waited a little longer a week later and just texted hey 🙂 . still no response… so im not so sure why he is pulling away all of a sudden. I thought things went great with our hang out. now that my friends have known some think i should move on, its been about 3 weeks now, im not so sure what to do. we live realy close to eachother too so eventually im sure we will bump into eachother . he cant hide forever. last thing i ask was if he wanted to help me with a project i am working on. it hought maybe it would strike his interests a little instead of asking how r u doing?. still no reply.. so im not sure if maybe i said something to strike his ego off? any advice? i do realize if you give a guy space after a while they will come back.


    guitarlover5
    Participant
    May 21, 2015 at 8:33 am #79447

    I am hoping that is the case if i dont say anything maybe for another week or two. i just started a new internship for my bachelors degree, idk if maybe he thinks that i am to much for him maybe.. but i felt we had a great connection. maybe he has things going on that i dont know about or maybe he is afraid of commitment idk. i feel i should get to know him better thn make the judge if i do want to keep going out with him.
    if i give him a little bit of space do you think it might help? i have noticed when i didnt give him much attention is when he kept asking me to hang out.


    guitarlover5
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    May 21, 2015 at 8:33 am #79452

    can anyone help me with some advice?


    kquin
    Participant
    May 21, 2015 at 6:18 pm #79534

    I understand the struggle. Just based off my experiences I think it might be time to try and move on. He kinda sounds like a jerk just based off the simple statement you said of him hitting you up when you start to ignore him. Its a really childish game that people play and you don’t want to be with someone who will play those types of games with you. It’s a harsh truth but its better to take it then to chase a guy that really isn’t worth the time and effort.


    guitarlover5
    Participant
    May 24, 2015 at 12:01 am #79682

    well now he contacted me again, and after we hung out he didn’t ignore me or anything we talked for about a week after that, so thats where I got kinda confused. maybe he got busy idk. I guess i’ll just keep playing it by ear. if he keeps playing games though then I’m done lol