He pursued, then ran. Should I wait or not?

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He pursued, then ran. Should I wait or not?

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    TW
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    October 16, 2014 at 3:15 pm #66037
    He pursued, then ran. Should I wait or not?

    Met a guy, hit it off with him and we were flirting with each other. Was told he had a girlfriend, bummer, but I’d like to know him.
    A few weeks later he messaged me on pof.I sent him a message back and gave him my number if he wanted to hang out.
    He texted me a few weeks after that. We went out, had a good time. I asked about the gf, he told me that the breakup was really recent. We fooled around a bit, but I wouldn’t let it get too far as I actually wanted to see him again, I’m not a rebound, he’s hurting, and he didn’t have protection. And yes, I told him all that. He left happy and all seemed well.
    Two days later I texted him, “Hey! Hope your weekend is going well.” His response?: ” It’s not. But thanks. My world has fallen apart. I think I should say that I won’t be in contact”
    I texted back that he knew how to reach me if me needed anything and I hoped things got better soon. This really sucks! He’s the first decent guy I’ve met in a long time. Should I wait or just give up?


    somethingclever
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    October 16, 2014 at 6:03 pm #66054

    I would give him a little bit of time but also not restrict yourself too much? There might be a family emergency or something that he doesn’t feel comfortable involving you in since he hasn’t known you that long. But I also wouldn’t be just waiting for him and maybe missing another opportunity. Maybe after a couple of weeks if he hasn’t gotten back, check in with him and if he doesn’t reply well then the situation resolved itself.