He wants space after a "where is this going?" Conversation

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He wants space after a "where is this going?" Conversation

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    whit
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    January 9, 2016 at 8:42 am #91388
    He wants space after a "where is this going?" Conversation

    I’ve been seeing a guy steadily for about 3 months now and, until now, he has given me every indication that he is interested. We’ve talked every day since we met, we’d see each other when we both had time. We’ve met each other’s friends, exchanged Xmas gifts, mentioned longer term plans. About a month ago we became exclusive and deleted our dating aps. I’d begun to feel comfortable, still allowing him to make most first contact, but I have been initiating occasional convos and hangouts, and then he seemed to do less. This past weekend I felt uneasy, he questioned it and I told him I was starting to feel a shift, like maybe I was more into this than he was. He denied but then told me he wasn’t sure he wanted a relationship. Later in the week we talked and he said he knows he doesn’t want one and that our distance makes it tricky, he wanted some space and the weekend off, but if I was ok with it we could see each other casually if I was ok with it which I am (I think).


    whit
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    January 9, 2016 at 8:46 am #91389

    We haven’t spoken in 2 days and I’m understanding of his need for space. I’d still like to see him again, but I don’t want the dynamic to be weird. Should I wait for him to contact me? How long do I wait him out?