HELP! Does this guy like me?

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HELP! Does this guy like me?

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    DatingDoozy
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    December 21, 2016 at 2:40 pm #120878
    HELP! Does this guy like me?

    So I met someone this fall at a work conference and we went on a first date after a lot of flirting via fb chat. The date was great, lasted the whole evening, and I got a goodnight kiss. After the date, we talked for a few days via text, but conversation dropped off and I was bummed out. Just when I gave up a whole month later, I was contacted and asked out again. I wish I asked what was going on, but I complied and he took me out to brunch, paid, and we had a great time. There was not much flirting going on during the date, but we both had a really great time. At the end, he did not kiss me, and I was really bummed out, I was very confused too. We texted a bit after and both said how much fun we had. I wish I asked if there was attraction– I feel chemistry. He just left for business trip in China for two months but wanted to see me first. I am SO confused!! My friends say if there was no kiss after all that time it’s a for sure NO, but I am confused!! Thoughts?

    2017winter
    2017winter
    Participant
    December 21, 2016 at 7:42 pm #120910

    I wouldn’t say it’s a ‘for sure NO’ and time will only tell. It’s hard to tell, especially since it seems you’ve only gone out on two dates? Once he gets back from his business trip, you should just ask him.


    johnp
    Participant
    December 22, 2016 at 2:09 pm #120934

    If you had just eaten, he may have been self-conscious about his breath. Or perhaps he is a little shy – you said the first date lasted the whole evening, so there was, presumably, some alcohol involved, which would have given him some dutch courage.

    The only part of your story that’s making me think he isn’t into you is the month-long gap between the two dates. If I were him, I’d be embarrassed to ask someone out after that long, and would be sure to offer an explanation if there was some innocent reason for the delay. The good news is that he took you to brunch on the second date. If he wasn’t that interested he would have asked you to come over to his place, or taken you out for a drink. Those are the guy-moves on girls that they aren’t into, and just want to see if the girl wants to get intimate. That’s not to say all dates in bars are like that, but sometimes it is.

    If I were you I’d just start dating other guys while he’s away – don’t wait on him for two months.


    DatingDoozy
    Participant
    December 23, 2016 at 9:09 am #120931

    I know I have got to ask :/ Just felt down that he didn’t kiss me the second time. Seemed like a step back.


    DatingDoozy
    Participant
    December 23, 2016 at 1:05 pm #120966

    Thank you! I appreciate that insight a lot!! I am for sure going to date others in the meantime. I just really felt a connection, so I will see what happens but not wait.


    DatingDoozy
    Participant
    December 23, 2016 at 1:11 pm #120967

    Is there any way to explain no kiss if he DOES have interest in me?

    JDP96
    JDP96
    Participant
    December 24, 2016 at 12:36 am #120979

    It sounds like he may be nervous, even more-so considering his job sounds very time consuming. Don’t be afraid to make the first move, not all guys have the guts. I wouldn’t say it’s a positive “NO” if he wanted to see you before leaving and he took you out.