Help please. She has feelings but something is missing in the sex.

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Help please. She has feelings but something is missing in the sex.

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  • adviceseeker43
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    October 23, 2016 at 9:40 am #114975
    Help please. She has feelings but something is missing in the sex.

    So I’ve been seeing a girl off and on for the last 10 months. We have never been “official” because she is unsure what she wants. Also, she has been having problems of her own (eating disorder 3 years ago, family drama, and suicide attempt 2 months ago). However, I have made it clear that she is who I want to be with.
    In my opinion we’ve had “sex” 3 times. Before this, she considered herself a virgin. After this, she considers herself a virgin. First off, I am aware that different lesbians have different views of what sex actually is, but to her it’s more than just physical. While we were having sex the last time, something in her demeanor changed. We stopped & she said something was missing. She then told me she didn’t want to reciprocate which obviously hurt my ego. We both cried and decided we should just be friends. Since then, she’s said things like “I miss you more than just as a friend” & she wants to talk about “us” again. Can this “problem” be overcome?
    Thanks!