Her EXTREME baggage ended it, would like to talk once more

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Her EXTREME baggage ended it, would like to talk once more

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    cekma
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    November 15, 2017 at 11:13 am #156447
    Her EXTREME baggage ended it, would like to talk once more

    Brace yourselves this one is a doozy, never should have gotten involved…
    Met a woman about a year and a few months ago on tinder, she has 3 kids! She got pregnant in high school in Kentucky, he’s 18. She has 2 more kids and has been divorced for over 2 years. Kids didn’t bother me. We talked a good amount but then the communication just stopped, no biggie, never met up.
    Fast forward to recent: she randomly adds me on face book. She said I came up in the people you may know section and she recognized me right away. We start talking again. Go on a date… it’s great, we keep hanging out, she knows I’m down with her having kids, I’m not wasting her time. I have a very busy work schedule so it’s a nice situation we see each other when we see each other, eventually I’m going to meet her kids, but not for months down a road, we both agree.

    We clearly both really like each other, everything is done with passion, we express it to each other, I’m 35, she is about to be 37, guess w


    cekma
    Participant
    November 15, 2017 at 11:14 am #156448

    guess we are old enough no one is trying to waste the others time, we start talking about serious stuff down the road probably much to early but we both really like each other and get caught up. She’s coming to meet my family for Thanksgiving, her family is coming to see her for Christmas, and life is great.

    She tells me about her ex-husband, it’s not good at all, I mean big time not good. A relationship is hard enough, adding kids, let alone not my kids, is another thing that could make it hard at some point. Adding a scumbag ex to all this, makes it much worse. I have my concerns. I decide I’m going to talk to her.

    We go out Friday; we have a great weekend planned. Kids are with the whacky ex for the weekend. We are having a great time, start talking a little serious. I figure well might as well bring it up now in a nice way. I let her know: I’m into this, the kids too, the whole thing. I’m concerned about your ex-husband. He sells drugs, he has mob connections


    cekma
    Participant
    November 15, 2017 at 2:11 pm #156449

    , he beat her up, she has an order of protection – he can’t leave the curb when he drops the kids off. Real scumbag. He drives drunk with the kids, he is trying to teach her son how to steal. He leaves them in a bar and then goes in the back and conducts shady business. I say to her lets say me and you keep seeing each other and this goes great. Maybe he will snap? You have to see my concern. He does something or gets someone to do something to me and or to you
    She tries to downplay it a little and mentions how a guy she saw for a few months, her ex was aware of and all he cared about was that the guy was nice to the kids. I told her but there’s a difference between her daughter saying to him “daddy – mommy is dating a nice guy”, and “daddy- mommy is engaged” – for all I know he will snap, you can’t tell because he has a bad track record.
    Not to mention that she should really be getting child services involved knowing she drops her kids off to a bad environment. She’s a goo


    cekma
    Participant
    November 15, 2017 at 2:13 pm #156450

    he beat her up, she has an order of protection – he can’t leave the curb when he drops the kids off. Real scumbag. He drives drunk with the kids, he is trying to teach her son how to steal. He leaves them in a bar and then goes in the back and conducts shady business. I say to her lets say me and you keep seeing each other and this goes great. Maybe he will snap? You have to see my concern. He does something or gets someone to do something to me and or to you.

    She tries to downplay it a little and mentions how a guy she saw for a few months, her ex was aware of and all he cared about was that the guy was nice to the kids. I told her but there’s a difference between her daughter saying to him “daddy – mommy is dating a nice guy”, and “daddy- mommy is engaged” – for all I know he will snap, you can’t tell because he has a bad track record.


    cekma
    Participant
    November 15, 2017 at 2:14 pm #156451

    Not to mention that she should really be getting child services involved knowing she drops her kids off to a bad environment. She’s a good mom but definitely has vented about being a mom for 18 years and will be her whole life but is looking for companionship for herself.
    So she starts to clamp up, gets quiet. I clearly hit a nerve. She decides she wants to go home. She says she will give me a ride. She thinks maybe her past is too much for me, she doesn’t want to keep talking about her past, she is trying to just start fresh. I told her she doesn’t need to give me a ride and she says no she will. She goes to get her coat. I go to bathroom, I didn’t tell her, I text her saying I’m in bathroom, I come out, she’s gone. Vanished. My bag of clothes was in her car. I try to call, I text her asking that she at least lets me home she got home OK. Nothing. I write to her an hour later a nice message saying I am sorry with how the night went, I did not mean to bring a negative up,


    cekma
    Participant
    November 15, 2017 at 2:15 pm #156456

    he beat her up, she has an order of protection – he can’t leave the curb when he drops the kids off. Real scumbag. He drives drunk with the kids, he is trying to teach her son how to steal. He leaves them in a bar and then goes in the back and conducts shady business. I say to her lets say me and you keep seeing each other and this goes great. Maybe he will snap? You have to see my concern. He does something or gets someone to do something to me and or to you.

    She tries to downplay it a little and mentions how a guy she saw for a few months, her ex was aware of and all he cared about was that the guy was nice to the kids. I told her but there’s a difference between her daughter saying to him “daddy – mommy is dating a nice guy”, and “daddy- mommy is engaged” – for all I know he will snap, you can’t tell because he has a bad track record.