Her guard is up. Girls I need your help.


Her guard is up. Girls I need your help.

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    January 25, 2013 at 3:13 pm #21274
    Her guard is up. Girls I need your help.

    Hi Everyone,
    I have been dating a girl for 6 months now and everything has been awesome. We never fight and we have had perfect dates and enjoyed our time together. However about two weeks ago; I made a mistake. I had not heard from her in about 18 hours and had called and text her a couple times with no response. So I was worried. I drove to her house and parked down the road. I walked up to the house, and she wasn’t home. The neighbors saw me and got worried I was not supposed to be there so they called her and said someone is at your house. She called me and asked if I went by her house that morning. I didn’t deny it what so ever, and said I did. She was really mad. She told me I was predictable before and now I\’m not, and that I scared her. We had dinner the other night and yes there is a little tension between us. She didn’t flinch when I touched her face or her leg or held her hand, and I kissed her goodnight. She said we need a little space but wants to talk and see each other. Our relationship has taken a little hit from this, and I want to get some opinions from others. If you think, in time, we can get back to the way things were before.

    She said that over the past 6 months I have been ridiculously good to her.
    We have had some incredible dates that I planned. A railway ride with a surprise private sunset horseback ride. A winery here in Georgia where I brought a blanket and we sat under a tree and watch the sunset and then had dinner reservations. Picnics in the park over the summer. I got her an antique dresser and mirror for Christmas which she was blown away by. We have had some great times I just don’t want this mistake to define me and have messed things up.

    February 18, 2013 at 2:05 am #22861

    There’s still hope. Take it slow and keep doing what you’ve been doing as far as the nice dates, etc. A point in your favor is that you didn’t deny that you were there. Offer to talk about it and apologize but let her know that your actions were only driven by concern. Let her know that any time she wants you to back off or she needs space to just let you know and you ‘ll give it to her.

    February 20, 2013 at 11:00 pm #23272

    Why did you park down the road? I think you mentioned that you dated for 6 months-so I guess I’m curious as to why you didn’t pull up to her house.Why not ask her if you messed things up. You also mentioned that she said you were ridiculously good to her. Could that mean everything you do is funny….or could that mean that you are going a bit overboard and she is trying to let you know. I dunno…if a guy did that much for me in only a few months it might overwhelm me, maybe that’s what’s happening with ur girl. But the only way you’ll know what’s up is just to ask her yourself! Hope everything goes alright!