How can I either put closure or get this thing going if it's going to go?

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How can I either put closure or get this thing going if it's going to go?

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    cashley
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    September 30, 2015 at 3:42 pm #86265
    How can I either put closure or get this thing going if it's going to go?

    I’ve been dating someone on and off for about 7 months. He’s 57 and I’m 48. We tend to have our own lives and I want more. He is an attorney and I’m in mgmt not quite as glamorous as his. I’m financially struggling and don’t want him to know that about me. He is truly the most gentleman I’ve ever had in my life, opens all doors, puts me first, brings coffee in bed and much more unselfish things. We use to go out couple times a week dinner, movies etc.. we lost that connection along the way (mostly because I was was insecure and suspicious of his loyalty, when he said we wanted to be exclusive I took it seriously but when he didnt come home one night I called him on it, he denied and it put a damper on our relationship, trust is big for him and it’s not been the same since. We still keep in touch through texting a couple times a week about really nothing.. I knows he’s not seriously seeing anyone and I’m not either. How do I break the ice to get this thing going if it’s going to go?


    BrainyHipster
    Participant
    September 30, 2015 at 5:36 pm #86273

    Be upfront and just tell him. Invite him over your place or ask to come to his and talk it out. Maybe it’s not over but it deft sounds like you guys need to talk. Your both adults. Handle it as such. Communication is key. Good luck


    cashley
    Participant
    October 1, 2015 at 8:56 am #86329

    Thank you and I just need to stop being intimidated and just make that talk happen, there’s been plenty of open conversations for it and I know there will be another and this time I won’t sweep under rug.


    agoodusername
    Participant
    October 1, 2015 at 11:10 am #86338

    Texting a few times a week doesn’t seem like people in a real relationship would do, let alone people over the age of like 25. I agree w/ Brainy. You need to talk it out. Good luck!