How can I get my ex back?

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How can I get my ex back?

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    helpplease
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    July 29, 2014 at 6:56 pm #58476
    How can I get my ex back?

    My ex and I were best friends for a few years before things got intimate. One day we realized we had more than friendship feelings for each other, and I made the first move by telling her how I felt. She responded by telling me she felt the same. I asked her out and we were so happy for a while. We dated for almost four years. We spent almost all of our time with each other whenever we could. We went to the same college and lived together for two years. Early in the relationship we started arguing and fighting a lot. I had a bit of an anger problem with her. I kept trying to make our relationship perfect while she was just trying to make me happy. Nothing seemed to work for a while. A few months ago, I woke up on the wrong side of the bed and took it out on her. I got so frustrated I said I don’t want to be with you anymore and she agreed. So we discussed it more seriously and made it official. We both agreed we didn’t love each other anymore and we should break up. TBC


    helpplease
    Participant
    July 29, 2014 at 6:58 pm #58477

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    However, she insisted to remain very close to me. We both agreed to be each other’s best friend again. We decided to do everything the same except for the fighting and romantic behaviors. We had a lease and shared a room for a month after the break up. We stopped all the romantic behavior until a few weeks later when she wanted to have sex, which we did and have almost regularly since. I’ve tried no contact, but she texts and calls me until I answer and sometimes she’ll call my friends and come by my house. She hates when I do that because she gets “worried.” After serious thought, I realized I am still in love with her and would like to fix our relationship. I told her how I felt. She said she’s confused and doesn’t know what she wants. Yet she wants me to sleep over her house every night because she likes sleeping next to me and still has sex with me. We talked a few times about this (I don’t want to push it.) She says that it’s not that she doesn’t want a TBC


    helpplease
    Participant
    July 30, 2014 at 8:53 am #58479

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    a relationship with me it’s because she doesn’t want a relationship right now. She just graduate from college and starting a new job and has a lot of stressors. I’ve been working in my anger and my own happiness because no one can rely on anyone to make them happy. I would like to get my relationship back because I do really care about her and love her. I would like to show her that I’ve changed and the past is in the past. Our new relationship won’t be like our old relationship because I do not want that back. She has an amazing personality and I love spending my time with her. i don’t know what to do.

    Please help


    helpplease
    Participant
    July 30, 2014 at 8:53 am #58481

    A relationship with me it’s because she doesn’t want a relationship right now. She just graduate from college and starting a new job and has a lot of stressors. I’ve been working in my anger and my own happiness because no one can rely on anyone to make them happy. I would like to get my relationship back because I do really care about her and love her. I would like to show her that I’ve changed and the past is in the past. Our new relationship won’t be like our old relationship because I do not want that back. She has an amazing personality and I love spending my time with her.


    helpplease
    Participant
    July 30, 2014 at 8:53 am #58482

    A relationship with me it’s because she doesn’t want a relationship right now. She just graduate from college and starting a new job and has a lot of stressors. I’ve been working in my anger and my own happiness because no one can rely on anyone to make them happy. I would like to get my relationship back because I do really care about her and love her. I would like to show her that I’ve changed and the past is in the past. Our new relationship won’t be like our old relationship because I do not want that back. She has an amazing personality and I love spending my time with her.

    CONTINUED.. However, she insisted to remain very close to me. We both agreed to be each other’s best friend again. We decided to do everything the same except for the fighting and romantic behaviors. We had a lease and shared a room for a month after the break up. We stopped all the romantic behavior until a few weeks later when she wanted to have sex, which we did and have almost regularly since. I’ve tried no contact, but she texts and calls me until I answer and sometimes she’ll call my friends and come by my house. She hates when I do that because she gets “worried.” After serious thought, I realized I am still in love with her and would like to fix our relationship. I told her how I felt. She said she’s confused and doesn’t know what she wants. Yet she wants me to sleep over her house every night because she likes sleeping next to me and still has sex with me. We talked a few times about this (I don’t want to push it.) She says that it’s not that she doesn’t want a TBC


    helpplease
    Participant
    July 30, 2014 at 8:55 am #58493

    Relationship with me it’s because she doesn’t want a relationship right now. She’s under a lot of stress right now and comes to me for support. I do what I can to make her less stress. What can I do? Or am I wasting my time ?

    paniii
    paniii
    Participant
    December 5, 2014 at 12:32 pm #68774

    just forget about her


    abod
    Participant
    December 5, 2014 at 4:26 pm #68801

    forget it


    Whatever94
    Participant
    December 5, 2014 at 8:36 pm #68810

    Try to prove what do you still mean to her, not just with words, but with actions, it´s not easy, you should not get your hopes up very much but it´s worth a shot.


    Peter94
    Participant
    December 5, 2014 at 8:54 pm #68820
    Reply To: How can I get my ex back?

    It´s always hard.


    ladyrabbit81
    Participant
    December 23, 2014 at 6:18 pm #69571
    Reply To: How can I get my ex back?

    You should move on honestly. Go out and explore your options. You will find that meeting new people is refreshing and you can put your past behind you. You can show a new person the new you. Going backwards is usually not the best choice. Have a good time with other friends, stop having sex with her and be assertive about having some space. She just shows up at your house? Keeps calling? This screams “young and clingy” to me. That is not okay. Lesbians tend to break up, get back together a lot. We get very attached. I had a six year relationship that ended terribly. I should have moved on after year three when it ended the first time. I just didn’t believe that I would find someone else so amazing. The truth is, my ex wasn’t amazing, I was just too blind and too insecure to look at the world and be single again.


    bayareasportsfan29
    Participant
    April 14, 2015 at 2:52 am #77169
    Reply To: How can I get my ex back?

    Tough situation whEn you’re best friends first. It sounds like you need to be honest and upfront though first and take it from there. Is she seeing anyone currently?

    bear242
    bear242
    Participant
    April 14, 2015 at 7:24 pm #77259
    Reply To: How can I get my ex back?

    An ex is an ex for a reason my friend, time to move forward

    spaceage1
    spaceage1
    Participant
    April 15, 2015 at 11:14 pm #77320
    Reply To: How can I get my ex back?

    The no contact rule


    JC8x
    Participant
    April 30, 2015 at 8:26 am #78128
    Reply To: How can I get my ex back?

    There’s a slight chance that you have better memories of the good times, than the bad times that led to the beak-up. I went through a hard break-up, but it’s best to leave it in the past and look forward.

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