How do I ask/find out what a woman's sex drive is?


How do I ask/find out what a woman's sex drive is?

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    November 30, 2014 at 11:06 pm #68391
    How do I ask/find out what a woman's sex drive is?

    I have an above average libido, and I’m wondering how to find out if a girl I’m interested in also likes regular/frequent sex. My last gf wanted it like monthly, but it took years to find out the truth. She said she’d always been that way – it wasn’t a problem with us. So is there any way to ask what a girl really wants in that department when you’ve just started dating? Any way to tell otherwise? I want to avoid dating someone for 6+ months just to find out that they don’t really like sex very often, but were trying to hook me into a long term relationship. I’ve had a couple gf’s even admit that they did just that in the past. I don’t dig casual sex much and get easily attached, so it’s a bit of a conundrum for me. I’ve learned that girls purposely cater to a guy’s desires in the beginning then slow down when the relationship gets serious. I’d rather avoid that whole situation and not even get serious with a girl if she doesn’t truly like regular sex.

    Any ideas?

    December 1, 2014 at 1:11 pm #68456

    I think that in the beginning of any new relationship you have to take it easy and be honest about who you are as a person and what your needs are. I wouldn’t see any problem with bringing it up casually if you’re both comfortable enough and intimate enough in each other’s company. Just aim to be mindful of her previous relationship/sexual history or experiences that she’s related to you already either casually or all gives an impression of what her expectations might be. Presumably you’re both consenting adults and so you need to wholly respect the person you’re with and take her lead sometimes as well as talk about what feels right for you. A friend of mine rates sex as really important to her in a relationship and was very open and honest about that with her partner when they originally met. She felt guilty about wanting to make love towards the end of their first date just because she was falling for him so quickly and thought she should wait.