How do I know when to make it "Official"

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How do I know when to make it "Official"

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    jasper725
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    January 12, 2015 at 1:40 pm #70320
    How do I know when to make it "Official"

    So I have been seeing this girl for coming up on two months now. In the past I was always one to jump in to relationships, but after being hurt several times I am really focusing on not getting ahead of myself with her. My problem is I want to make it official, but I am afraid of ruining it by trying to define the relationship too soon. On the other hand I feel like waiting too long could send the wrong message as well. I Love spending time with her, and I do not want to date anyone else, nor do I want her to date anyone else. We spend most weekends together, and I hate it when she has to leave on Sunday. When people ask about our relationship she always makes it a point to say ” Well we aren’t officially dating yet, we haven’t had that talk yet” The way she says it makes me think this is a hint for me to initiate that talk, but I think my fear is just getting the best of me. Sorry for the rambling, but I guess my question is How do I know when its the right time to make it “official”


    Evergreen
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    January 12, 2015 at 4:36 pm #70349

    2 months is enough time I think, if you are both truly interested in each other. Perhaps the next time you guys have a weekend hangout, express to her that you enjoy spending time with her and can see this going somewhere serious, that you do not have any interest in seeing anyone else. Ask her how she feels. If she feels the same way, you can make it official. However, if she doesn’t feel as strongly and still wants to take it slow, you have to respect that. Just let her know you will respect her decision but reassure her that you still stand on how you feel and won’t be seeing other people. This should comfort her. Hope that helps.