How to get the love of my life back

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How to get the love of my life back

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    forzadaniela9
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    March 24, 2018 at 5:30 pm #168330
    How to get the love of my life back

    My ex and I had a beautiful relationship. Each moment was wonderful and all our friends/family saw how happy we were together. We even fought well together which is huge. We seemed to overcome every obstacle together so easily and naturally. I feel it in my heart he is my other half. And he once felt the same too. Last week he blindsided me and broke up with me. I did not see it coming. He didn’t cheat, I believe him completely. He’s a good man. He said he lost interest in me over time and doesn’t want to be in a relationship. I’m devastated. I’ve never had heartbreak like this before.
    Here’s what’s odd. Since we broke up, he still checks in on me. Texts/calls me to see how I am. Today we even had lunch and we wants to have dinner next week. He is still sure that he doesn’t want to be wkth me so I just cry all day and try to keep the tears back each time we talk on the phone. This is torture. I know I have to cut him off but I love him so much.

    How do I get him back?


    mark888
    Participant
    March 26, 2018 at 11:14 pm #168557

    until u cut him off… you cannot move on.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    April 6, 2018 at 9:40 am #169737

    “I feel it in my heart he is my other half. And he once felt the same too. Last week he blindsided me and broke up with me. I did not see it coming.
    He said he lost interest in me over time and doesn’t want to be in a relationship.”

    There are 3 reasons why couples breakup

    1. They chose the wrong mate. (They’re too incompatible)
    2. A “deal breaker” was committed in the eyes of another.
    3. They fell out of love/stopped wanting the same things.

    In order for him to be “the one” he would have to see (you) as being “the one”.
    At the very least a “soulmate” is someone who actually wants to be with you!

    Never accept “friendship” as a “consolation prize” after a breakup because it gives you false hope for a reconciliation.
    The person doing the dumping doesn’t want to feel like the “bad guy” so he offers to be your friend.
    Your (ex) is the last person who can help you get over a breakup! Accept it’s over.

    In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: NEXT!


    UserF
    Participant
    April 10, 2018 at 8:40 am #169874

    The way to move on is also the way to maybe get him back : stop talking to him.
    Tell him that you understand that this is over so you are going to focus on yourself now and just stop giving him any contact.
    Focus on a personal project that you wanted to do that does not involve him.
    If he still has feelings, he will try to get back.


    Komposta
    Participant
    April 10, 2018 at 6:03 pm #170124

    Maybe it’s time to move on


    Desree
    Participant
    April 11, 2018 at 9:12 am #170140

    I feel your pain been there. what helped me was time and I had to cut all contact. That was the toughest thing to do. thank God, I had good people around me, that really helped I had my own little support group. But it was very hard in those quiet moments because that’s when my mind would wonder and I would think about him and kept checking my cell phone to see if I might have missed a call. You don’t want to push him away completely by trying to push what is. If the love is real then take this time and work on you find the happiness in you and then you will be able to share that happiness with someone else. Take this time to become comfortable with you., I am not going to say this will be easier but it’s a start. you need a time out and for yourself. Love you, if there is so much pain trying to find the calm, first start with you. We have no control over others we can only have control over ourselves.


    hopelessinlove
    Participant
    April 11, 2018 at 4:25 pm #170242

    If it really is the love of your life it would not have ended or you will find your back to each other naturally. I broke up with my ex because I lost interest too yet we had an amazing relationship and we’re still very good friends now, never meant I regretted my decision and we have both realized by now that we’re better off as friends for many reasons we didn’t acknowledge back then. You should move on. Don’t chase after a guy who’s not into you it will never pay off.


    ascofield
    Participant
    April 11, 2018 at 8:49 pm #170283

    You have to cut him off so you can heal and move on. He’s just keeping you around to make the break up easy for him and make sure you’re still into him to boost his ego.


    Ell0124
    Participant
    April 14, 2018 at 5:58 pm #170568

    You have to let him go and move on, if its meant to be you’ll get back together, Unfortunately nothing you can do will bring him back, he has to decide that on his own.


    Jane201522
    Participant
    April 14, 2018 at 9:26 pm #170571
    Reply To: How to get the love of my life back

    I know it’s hard but try to move on
    You can do it