How to talk about getting serious to a quiet/in-depth thinking man?


How to talk about getting serious to a quiet/in-depth thinking man?

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    January 3, 2016 at 11:17 pm #90855
    How to talk about getting serious to a quiet/in-depth thinking man?

    I met this guy online back in September. We had wild chemistry via text and phone for six weeks before we met in person at the halfway point between our cities. Totally into each other, we decided to sleep together and still felt high on our connection when we returned to our homes.

    The following week after our physical meeting, we had a misunderstanding that put a bit of a hole in our “high” moment and awkwardness followed for about a month but he still attempted to connect via text every few days or a phone call once a week and we would have general conversations. Yet, the spark was a bit lost after the misunderstanding.

    I just happened to have relatives to visit for Christmas in his home town. I told him about it a few weeks before Christmas and he asked if I was planning on seeing him. I told him of course but wasn’t sure if he wanted to see me. We made plans. He sounded worried that maybe our chemistry was gone but I was sure that it was….

    January 3, 2016 at 11:29 pm #90856

    ….we met each other on the first night and went to dinner before he spent the night at my hotel. It was a bit quiet to start but the chemistry was still there. The second planned night, we went out to have fun, he went to work and then came over to my hotel to spend the night where the chemistry was more than apparent between us.

    As it turned out, I was having fun with family and friends that I decided to stay for 3 extra days. I told him about my extended stay but he said that he had to work so wouldn’t be able to see me. I said fine because it wasn’t planned. As it turns out, on my last night stay, he texted and asked if I would be ok if he dropped by in the morning after his shift to see me one last time. I was glad to see him.

    I’m not sure he is entirely interested in me or the fact that we have great sex together. How do I talk to him about getting serious? He needs to think things through and doesn’t verbally express his feelings but does tease me.

    January 11, 2016 at 5:38 am #91413

    To be honest I think it sounds like you just need to tell him how you feel and what’s on your mind. If you don’t you’ll drive yourself crazy trying to answer the question yourself x good luck x

    January 11, 2016 at 2:11 pm #91430