I am confused about her? Has she friendzoned me?

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I am confused about her? Has she friendzoned me?

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    DrDee
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    September 3, 2015 at 6:01 am #85048
    I am confused about her? Has she friendzoned me?

    There is this girl (20 years old) in my university, we are in the same department, the girl is very analytical and a Catholic,I am agnostic(she knows) she is pretty too and has class. She is also intelligent. I never knew she had a boyfriend in another university, whom she hi’t seen for a long time(long distance relationship). I didnt bo her to ask her whether she has a boyfriend because its not in my nature to do that, I just go for any girl that interest me. So I started showing this girl interest, although I didn’t make it obvious because I wasn’t sure how she feels for me, it was later that she told me she can’t date me because she doesn’t feel the same way for me, and that she has a long distance boyfriend. So anyway, we agreed to be just friends, after so many thoughts and fighting on my own side. But I still get jealous when I see her playing with another guy, anyway it seems I have overcome that jealousy.
    What I don’t understand is why does this girl like hanging out with me?


    DrDee
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    September 3, 2015 at 6:02 am #85049

    She sometimes calls me at evening time to see her, she takes me around school(on feet) to romantic places, telling me how she sees couples making out etc. Always walking with me after class, although she has told me she doesnt have friends like that, anywhere you see me you are likely to see her. She is conservative, doesnt hug, maybe because of her big boobs i dont know. Although I have told her never to discuss about her relationship problems with me in this friendship because I hate the feeling of being friendzoned. So she has never done that. I noticed this girl does almost anything I ask her to do, and she always try not to get on my bad side. If I tell her that she is doing something I dont like, she stops doing it and would never do it again, almost like I have her remote control with me. The only thing she avoids is getting romantic with me, she avoids talking romance or anything that could bring up “love” emotions between us. I was shocked the day she asked me about my


    DrDee
    Participant
    September 3, 2015 at 12:19 pm #85054

    past relationships, who broke up with who? Have I had sex before? Etc.
    She told me later that she has broken up with her bf and she might not want to move on, that she wasn’t happy about it , broken up for the past three weeks before I
    Finally decided to chip in “going beyond friendship” in my conversation with her. She said “don’t let’s do that”
    I asked her why , she said we had discussed about it before and concluded. I told her people change and poo happens, and she told me she knows, that she still maintain her stance.

    So I made her realise that once I have a gf I won’t be spending time with her that much etc. And then she was surprised, saying my gf wld be matured enough to give me space, i told her it doesn’t work that way.
    It was later later that she asked me what prompted that ? That I must have thought of somethiñg to say it out, that it has been locked up insid. Asking me that have I seen a girl that I like? Why is she asking me that, if she is not interested?


    rnatk7
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    September 5, 2015 at 10:14 pm #85162

    If she won’t accept you for who you are, fuck it


    kivahoney
    Participant
    September 6, 2015 at 12:07 am #85170

    Well, she has already rejected you, so u should not waste ur time on her anymore. Trust me, I had the same experience too, what she means is just frds, nothing more than that. She keeps hanging out with you coz she doesn’t want to hurt ur feeling but at the same time treats u as her frd. Its really hard for them to totally reject you and unfrd you, they are only trying to be nice persons, do not misuderstand that they r giving u hope coz they r not. I will suggest you to let it go and find another one. Gd luck.