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I am really lost.. I need some advice

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    November 26, 2014 at 12:57 pm #68241
    I am really lost.. I need some advice

    I am with this girl which i really love, however we have some problem. I feel really lost and i really cant understand her , i really need some advice. Thanks
    When we first get together , everything seen to be fine . The problem starts when we started to quarreling for the smallest thing.Everytime when we quarrel , I would think of why are we quarreling , what should I do , what not to do next time and I would listen to her when she told me what i could have done instead.

    The 1st time : I apologize to her, I tell her that how much she meant to me , and i will not do it again. she told me , she would want me to hug her even when she push me away instead of keep explaining as she say all explanation to her will be a lie when she is angry/sad and she would feel more irritated.


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    November 26, 2014 at 12:57 pm #68242

    The 2nd time : I remember what she has told me , and i stop explaining , I hug her instead .However it gotten worse, She pushes me away and told me to stop disturbing her as I am being irritating and she want to be alone and she walk off. I chase after her and she shout to me, I want to be alone!, Why cant you ever listen to what i want?. And to my mind, maybe she needed space and i let her walk off. I messaged her, I am sorry and she reply , You have already left me to be sad by my own,now cont please. And I told her please give me a chance, as I though to myself, Next time I should never leave her alone. This time , she told me , what she want is me to at least keep calling her and come back to her, it would at least show that i care.


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    December 1, 2014 at 8:57 am #68243

    The 3rd time :We quarrel by messaging , I was off that day, and I remember what she told me the 2nd time, I try to call her again and again even though she has been rejecting my call. I went under her block to find her , waited her for 6hours and I become agitated , I raise my tone at her and I did the 1st mistake which i did, Explaining to her. She tell me to please go home, I listened to her and i went home.The next day, I did the same thing again, I kept calling her , Went to her block to find her and asked her to give me a last chance, As i though if i could do whatever she want me to do, we would not quarrel again.


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    December 1, 2014 at 8:57 am #68245

    The 4th time: :We quarrel again , I was very stress up due to my family problem. I raised my tone and I told her, My family is now in this situation , can’t you be more understanding, I am so tired and now you still want to quarrel with me?. I was really agitated as she walk off and i punched the wall and walk off.After when i calm down, I told her that i am really sorry to have done this.


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    December 1, 2014 at 8:57 am #68246

    For the 5th and sequence , We begin to quarrel even more often. And now no matter how much I try to change , Do all her likes and Don’t do all her dislikes. She would still end up getting Angry and upset.
    When I hug her , she would tell me not to touch her. When I don hug and don’t explain , She would find me as doing nothing. When she walk off and i chase after her , she would get worse and find me irritating , when i let her walk off , She would find me as not chasing after her. When i call her , she would just keep rejecting my calls and when i don’t call , she would find me as not doing anything . When i went to her block to wait for her, She would find me threatening her..


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    December 1, 2014 at 9:15 am #68247

    I am really lost. I would always be the one to apologize even when sometimes i felt that i am not wrong. .All I want is this relationship to back to last time when we don’t quarrel.I have been trying so hard but it just does not work.Sometimes i felt really tired but i really do not feel like giving up. I really need some advice on what i can do and how i can understand her..

    Thanks you