I Cannot Get a Good Read on this Girl


I Cannot Get a Good Read on this Girl

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    October 11, 2015 at 12:10 am #86765
    I Cannot Get a Good Read on this Girl

    Long story short: I’ve been talking with this girl who works at a different office for the same company as me. We have not always gotten along very well, but recently we’ve been pretty flirty with each other, and she’s said some things that give the impression that she’s at least interested in hanging out some time. On the other hand, she doesn’t seem all that excited about it, because I gave her my number and she never texted me, and sometimes just doesn’t respond to my communications. No big deal; I figured I’d misread the situation and backed off a bit. I kept things brief and to the point, not icy, but not flirty either. But then, she called me the other day and asked basically “WTF? Why are you being short with me.” I e-mailed her yesterday and reassured her that we were cool. Then, she gave me her number and told me to text her this weekend. So, last night I did; she didn’t answer. I did again today, and we chatted for a little bit, but I can’t tell where this is headed.

    October 11, 2015 at 12:13 am #86766

    Half of our interactions leave the definite impression she’s interested in some level, but then other half, it seems as if she’s suddenly done a 180. I’m trying not to read too much into anything, but it died seen a bit odd to me

    October 20, 2015 at 1:08 pm #87130

    It sounds like you need to move on to the next step and that you’re done with the small talk. Try to organise something casual (not as a date) with her and see how that goes, she could just be playing games. Let me know how things evolve please 🙂

    October 20, 2015 at 8:57 pm #87137

    What do you know about her? It feels like she probably have another guy trying to get on her, and she is unsettled about it.

    October 30, 2015 at 8:34 am #87667

    So, an update: nothing really changed about the situation, but last week, she called me art work and asked if I wanted to go to dinner and get some drinks some time. I said “Yeah, sure.” Then, texted her later that night to find out when she wanted to go. Nothing in response. She called me again the next day, and said she’s terrible art writing people back, don’t be offended, and she’s got a busy life. I said I wasn’t offended, I understand, I’m busy also, that’s cool, whatever. Didn’t think anything of it, but obviously she couldn’t have wanted to go out too badly, or she would’ve suggested a time to do it. I mean, she asked me in the first place, so I’m not going to harass her about when we’d going to go out.

    October 30, 2015 at 4:13 pm #87710

    It sounds to me like she is either nervous or just plain indecisive. From a girl’s point of view, I sometimes wait to respond to texts because I’m trying to figure out where I want the situation to go. It sounds like this is going beyond the point of processing though.

    November 2, 2015 at 5:53 am #87749

    I think she is just plain indecisive

    November 11, 2015 at 1:57 pm #88310

    She is maybe just playing hard to get and is testing the water somewhat. I would suggest patience or the ol go big or go home if you cant take it anymore….