I do not know how to be attractive

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I do not know how to be attractive

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    grandM
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    December 13, 2014 at 10:30 pm #69147
    I do not know how to be attractive

    Hi everyone

    I decided to post this question on a women’s forum as women know. I have been dateless now for seven years. I am 37, caucascian, master degree, slender and 5.67 feet. I truly have no clue how to act and what women find attractive. So I would appreciate any insights you can give. Every idea is appreciated.

    Tx

    dmj106
    dmj106
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    December 19, 2014 at 9:31 am #69462

    This is a man’s perspective, but I’d still like to respond. I also have a hard time really knowing what women find attractive, but from my very limited dating experience I think I know what the number one thing is: confidence in oneself. I dated a girl that I worked with a few years back (I was in college and she was a high school senior) and we really had a nice connection. To this day I still have never really cared for anyone more than I have her, since it was just so easy to talk with her and be with her. The thing I really struggled with then and now is that I am not overly confident in myself. My lack of dating always made it very awkward for me, even when I thought things were going great. Our first kiss, for example, was done by her because when I went in for it she could tell I had no idea what I was doing. I lacked that confidence to really grab her attention, so that’s what I think the biggest part of dating is. Now if I could only fix that……


    Anonymous
    December 20, 2014 at 12:47 am #69500

    grandM, I would say here that outer beauty or fascination is not so much important but your nature, poses, gestures, thoughts etc. do matter.

    If your inner beauty (feelings, emotions, nature etc.) are good, then you are also handsome. 🙂
    I give priority to inner beauty, not to outer beauty.